been trying this out recently and it seems to be working…
instead of saying affirmations such as “I AM a good friend” or “I AM strong,” etc., which never actually felt true and often felt so far from my mental state at the time, try creating an identity for yourself. switch the narrative to saying “I am a person WHO LIKES to be there for my friends” or “I am a person who likes to feel strong.”
this helps you foster parts of yourself that feel within reach and are relatively true to who you are.
been thinking a lot about self-awareness lately and what makes me “me.” I’m always trying to figure out how to transform my inner critic to real personal growth without shame.
being honest and not editing myself to any given room was one of the first things I began to tackle in therapy. existing among other humans is an ongoing give and take, and Being Who You Are without apology while treating others with respect is really all you need to do in this life. learning how to be kind and true, and finding the good amongst so much bad and then sharing it with others makes the world go ‘round
I was talking to someone who was feeling self-conscious and worried that people wouldn’t like him, so I said to him, “If you’re true to yourself, the right people will love you.” Now I say it to myself all the time because it’s true!
a lot of the time I can be rather forgetful when it comes to practicing certain things I want to try out in my day to day. but my gawd when I remember??? for instance the past few days I’ve been reminding myself to present as my truest self everywhere and anywhere.
basically really not giving af and be myself unapologetically. it’s so freeing fr. I’m levitating rn actually.
even if shit continues to hit the fan, pretty much everyone ends up exactly where they’re supposed to be. you will find a place to live, a job, a lover, friends, etc. just keep going and it will be ok.