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the best way to get over FOMO for me was to remember that i'm living my life for me and that the best way to do that is to take care of myself even when that's not the most fun option. in college, i would always struggle to stay home when my friends were going out even if i was really tired or had a lot of work to do. i would go to the party that was never as good as i told myself it would be and then be exhausted the next day or behind. and that lack of sleep and procrastination would just compound over time.
there was always going to be another party, but not another due date. there was always going to be another party, but not another day to sleep in. parties and fun events will always be there. your health and mental wellbeing is not something that should be gambled on something that will never go away.
right now you have covid and it must suck because it's not that you don't want to go but that you literally can't. but right now, you're not only doing what's best for you but also for others. you are replenishing your energy, you are recovering, and that is extremely important! i think sometimes we take our health for granted but it is truly a privilege! you aren't missing out for no reason. you're actively taking care of yourself and your community.
speaking of other people, you have no idea if you would've even enjoyed the event. there have been so many times that i have been with people at parties that were lame, boring, or just unpleasantly crowded. and those same people i was with, would post about it like it was the best night of their lives. if i had only seen it on social media, i would've thought i missed out on so much. but i was there! and it sucked! people only post their highlights and they are incredibly unreliable.
you know only know what you know. you can only build upon certainties, so there's no point in guessing or engaging in hypotheticals because the possibility of you having fun vs not having fun is equally likely and a pure unknown! it's a waste of time to wonder. instead, focus on what you do know and make the best of the things you can do that you know you enjoy!
whether it's catching up on movies, books, games, long phone calls with long distance friends, trying new recipes, making a really specific spotify playlist, adding a million pins to your pinterest boards, playing games, binging a tv show, redecorating your room, etc etc.
so TLDR: - your health and mental well being over everything - there's always going to be another party - social media is inaccurate - you know what you enjoy, so focus your time on doing the things you know for sure will make you happy.
*bonus suggestion*: i've been playing a LOT of sudoku and i think it's a good way to entertain yourself that doesn't require a lot of physical expenditure and isn't just mindlessly scrolling.
i hope you feel better soon!! <333
there was always going to be another party, but not another due date. there was always going to be another party, but not another day to sleep in. parties and fun events will always be there. your health and mental wellbeing is not something that should be gambled on something that will never go away.
right now you have covid and it must suck because it's not that you don't want to go but that you literally can't. but right now, you're not only doing what's best for you but also for others. you are replenishing your energy, you are recovering, and that is extremely important! i think sometimes we take our health for granted but it is truly a privilege! you aren't missing out for no reason. you're actively taking care of yourself and your community.
speaking of other people, you have no idea if you would've even enjoyed the event. there have been so many times that i have been with people at parties that were lame, boring, or just unpleasantly crowded. and those same people i was with, would post about it like it was the best night of their lives. if i had only seen it on social media, i would've thought i missed out on so much. but i was there! and it sucked! people only post their highlights and they are incredibly unreliable.
you know only know what you know. you can only build upon certainties, so there's no point in guessing or engaging in hypotheticals because the possibility of you having fun vs not having fun is equally likely and a pure unknown! it's a waste of time to wonder. instead, focus on what you do know and make the best of the things you can do that you know you enjoy!
whether it's catching up on movies, books, games, long phone calls with long distance friends, trying new recipes, making a really specific spotify playlist, adding a million pins to your pinterest boards, playing games, binging a tv show, redecorating your room, etc etc.
so TLDR: - your health and mental well being over everything - there's always going to be another party - social media is inaccurate - you know what you enjoy, so focus your time on doing the things you know for sure will make you happy.
*bonus suggestion*: i've been playing a LOT of sudoku and i think it's a good way to entertain yourself that doesn't require a lot of physical expenditure and isn't just mindlessly scrolling.
i hope you feel better soon!! <333
Jul 18, 2024
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🌅1) reading and watching movies. I feel like I say this a lot On Here but it is so nice to literally remove your own thoughts from your brain for a while by consuming (being consumed by?) a story.
2) friends. Remind yourself that there is love in the world and in your life.
3) start a project. Give yourself something to do and be excited about.
4) go for a walk and looking to see what small and interesting things you might see. treat it like you’re on a scavenger hunt but you dont know what you’re looking for.
5) eat fresh vegetables and fruits you are excited about perhaps from the farmers market and more generally feed yourself things that make you feel joy
6) get concert tickets or something similar for at least a month in the future give yourself something to look forward to
7) pop music and dancing to it
8) hang out with an animal
9) volunteer for a cause you specifically care about and find a volunteer role that you feel well suited for — when the world is scary and sad the best way to make yourself feel more in control and less hopeless is to actively work to make something better. there is no progress without hope! and even better, you might have fun and meet cool people while you do it.
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⏳i spent about 9 months unemployed during the pandemic (i was 22/23) and while it did take a toll on me, i eventually realised how much time i had to actually take care of my body and mind.
i worked out a lot, got in shape and was very happy with how i looked. i also grabbed the savings i had and took a course that eventually got me into the career i wanted in advertising.
it's easier to create a routine with all the time you have on your hands. you can find many ways to be productive without realising. i remember i read a lot, watched a lot of movies and shows, played a lot of videogames and still found time to exercise and study.
just gotta be careful not to lose motivation. take this chance to reflect on what you would really like to pursue. you're in possession of the most valuable of resources: time. 🙂
i worked out a lot, got in shape and was very happy with how i looked. i also grabbed the savings i had and took a course that eventually got me into the career i wanted in advertising.
it's easier to create a routine with all the time you have on your hands. you can find many ways to be productive without realising. i remember i read a lot, watched a lot of movies and shows, played a lot of videogames and still found time to exercise and study.
just gotta be careful not to lose motivation. take this chance to reflect on what you would really like to pursue. you're in possession of the most valuable of resources: time. 🙂
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I really struggled with all the unstructured time post-grad and my body totally flipped like what do you MEAN I have nothing to do and if I do nothing, nothing will happen? This rec is annoying, but as a skilled layabout, it really helped me overcome the whole “what do I do all day” thing and also the “why am I falling asleep at 3 AM and waking up at noon?” thing to make a loose schedule and try to adhere. If you’re applying for jobs, school, or even just pondering what to do next, think about:
At what time during the day do I feel most awake and alive? Then, block out like four hours around that window. I try to do 90 minutes of focused work at a time with like 60 minutes between for chilling. So, if you can start with two little blocks of working on applications or doing some intentional, focused pondering, great. Gradually, you can increase the amount of work if you want.
Then, plan the rest of your day around things you need and want to do - move your bod, eat, socialize. Things like talking a short walk in the morning to get some sunlight, going to the movies, and calling friends, lighten me up! Keep it simple babe!
Post-grad, I laid on a couch for three months in stay at home girlfriend mode totally consumed by fear. I asked a lot of older people how they figured things out and they told me that nobody ever does. I like to do some meditations on intention and listening to yourself (linked). And I agree with capyboppy...try to stay present and pay attention to what you got going on right now! The weight of future is heavy becuase you probably want your life to be sick and meaningful….and that’s cool.
At what time during the day do I feel most awake and alive? Then, block out like four hours around that window. I try to do 90 minutes of focused work at a time with like 60 minutes between for chilling. So, if you can start with two little blocks of working on applications or doing some intentional, focused pondering, great. Gradually, you can increase the amount of work if you want.
Then, plan the rest of your day around things you need and want to do - move your bod, eat, socialize. Things like talking a short walk in the morning to get some sunlight, going to the movies, and calling friends, lighten me up! Keep it simple babe!
Post-grad, I laid on a couch for three months in stay at home girlfriend mode totally consumed by fear. I asked a lot of older people how they figured things out and they told me that nobody ever does. I like to do some meditations on intention and listening to yourself (linked). And I agree with capyboppy...try to stay present and pay attention to what you got going on right now! The weight of future is heavy becuase you probably want your life to be sick and meaningful….and that’s cool.
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🌟the idea that you can only fuck up and express and be beautiful and destructive and explorative and constructive in your youth is simply a myth. you are going to continue to fuck up and you are going to continue to blossom. there's no linear path and structure on that. even people in their 50's completely change their entire lives. nothing is fixed and there is no path to follow.
your life isn't over until it's over.
this narrative that once you start to age you can no longer explore and express is an oppressive, capitalist, and intentional one. also, it's just not true. your responsibility doesn't have to be boring or restrictive. the reason why you become more responsible is because you actually care about yourself. irresponsibility isn't the same as freedom. irresponsibility can be "fun" but also destroys you. having more responsibilities to keep yourself safe and cared for isn't the antithesis to fun and life and expression.
your feelings make sense though. in college it's easier to meet people and try new things. but ease doesn't translate to quality or longevity or intrigue. but funny enough, there are 30 year olds now that probably feel the exact same way about you as you feel about the people slightly younger than you.
there is no such thing as free years in terms of spirit.
expression and exploration is available in all forms at all ages. there are always places to go, hikes to walk, friends to laugh with, mistakes to make, good food to eat, art to create, fights to have, things to fail at, lessons to be learned, and love to be felt.
you're only 23. you're about to enter a new chapter of your life where you will fuck up and you will have stories to tell, adventure to explore, feelings to express, and people to love. and that is something that will always be true.
this narrative that once you start to age you can no longer explore and express is an oppressive, capitalist, and intentional one. also, it's just not true. your responsibility doesn't have to be boring or restrictive. the reason why you become more responsible is because you actually care about yourself. irresponsibility isn't the same as freedom. irresponsibility can be "fun" but also destroys you. having more responsibilities to keep yourself safe and cared for isn't the antithesis to fun and life and expression.
your feelings make sense though. in college it's easier to meet people and try new things. but ease doesn't translate to quality or longevity or intrigue. but funny enough, there are 30 year olds now that probably feel the exact same way about you as you feel about the people slightly younger than you.
there is no such thing as free years in terms of spirit.
expression and exploration is available in all forms at all ages. there are always places to go, hikes to walk, friends to laugh with, mistakes to make, good food to eat, art to create, fights to have, things to fail at, lessons to be learned, and love to be felt.
you're only 23. you're about to enter a new chapter of your life where you will fuck up and you will have stories to tell, adventure to explore, feelings to express, and people to love. and that is something that will always be true.
Jul 11, 2024
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🧨this is a 6 episode show thats more like a mini series. its directed by and starring phoebe waller bridge (fleabag). it's short, sweet, hilarious, and on netflix. highly recommend for wackiness and intrigue.
Jul 13, 2024