even though I could shop the normal way in theory I prefer to buy everything secondhand. I also hate to buy clothes everyone else is wearing. I have two Goodwills of preference I frequent with regularity; I like to go wild on Poshmark sort low to high with minimal use of keywords and liberal use of custom filters (especially brand); I find some interesting things on eBay from time to time; I like shopping clearance at TheRealReal but they like banned meā¦ sometimes Marshallās and TJ Maxx have cute stuff. Donāt cancel me but Iām also an Aliexpress diva and Iām in some groups of likeminded ladies about this on the dl. I look for natural fibers, good construction, and, in used garments, a tasteful but not excessive amount of wear
Jun 13, 2024
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A fun game I like to play with myself is if I want to buy clothes, makeup, shoes, hair care, household items etcā¦ I have to look it up on a resale site first where I will usually find it for cheaper and feel good about not contributing to a Bezos-centric society.
Feb 29, 2024
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my top sites for secondhand shopping!!! i am truly obsessed with them, it is like hunting for treasure. i also like browsing depop, etsy, and vestiare, though i only have a handful of items from those in my wardrobe. i hear good things about vinted and medium things about grailed but i havent spent any time w those. i dont really use poshmark but it is massive. also check out the app called gem, it will check all these sites and more to find any keywords that you enter and email you a list of new items matching your query!
Feb 14, 2024
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Honestly Iām still an eBay girly all the way, itās actually a problem lol. I find that you can find better priced clothing as well because itās not like going through some resellers ācuratedā collection like on other platforms where they charge more just because they call it curated or style things. If you already have an idea of what youāre looking for you can find great deals. I just recently got the cutest 100% cashmere sweaters and they were all max $20 with shipping.
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024