I have a tough relationship with my mom so I get it. If you've tried everything, including directly and clearly telling her to stop because it's hurting you, it might be time to try less contact. See her less, talk to her less, give her very limited info in response to questions. She can't hurt you if she doesn't have the ammo.
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i’ll be 27 soon and still living at home because it’s expensive to breath at the moment. im grateful to have a mom that didn’t kick me out at 18 and helps me out so much, but i grew up really sheltered and she’s only loosened up fairly recently as my younger siblings get older. she very much had (has? idk) issue with seeing me as a teenager and not an adult. she was weird about me drinking, weird about dating, even weird about me using tampons for a while...she meant well but i think as her oldest it was hard for her to accept me growing up.
i used to dye my hair crazy colors and i finally got her to be like ok but no bleach and i said ok knowing full well i needed bleach. so i just used bleach. after years of me dying my hair she finally found out when i stopped dyeing. by that time it was too late to say anything. i wouldnt tell her the full truth about where i was going and what i was doing until way after i made it home in one piece. within reason though bc genuinely i wanted to respect her and the roof she helps keep over my head!
if she’s like “oh that shirt is very cropped” im just like “yes and i bought it.” little things like that. as long as im not a freeloader i dont see the issue with respecting my autonomy.
anyways my mom is very much not the kind to talk back to but if i could slowly push a limit, i would. you gotta let adulthood take the reign and they will have to just deal. it sounds harsh but also not nearly as scary as it seems.
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about the patterns she’s observed in your life but didn’t share until now after you opened up because she didn’t want to impose or offend
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