i’ll be 27 soon and still living at home because it’s expensive to breath at the moment. im grateful to have a mom that didn’t kick me out at 18 and helps me out so much, but i grew up really sheltered and she’s only loosened up fairly recently as my younger siblings get older. she very much had (has? idk) issue with seeing me as a teenager and not an adult. she was weird about me drinking, weird about dating, even weird about me using tampons for a while...she meant well but i think as her oldest it was hard for her to accept me growing up.
i used to dye my hair crazy colors and i finally got her to be like ok but no bleach and i said ok knowing full well i needed bleach. so i just used bleach. after years of me dying my hair she finally found out when i stopped dyeing. by that time it was too late to say anything. i wouldnt tell her the full truth about where i was going and what i was doing until way after i made it home in one piece. within reason though bc genuinely i wanted to respect her and the roof she helps keep over my head!
if she’s like “oh that shirt is very cropped” im just like “yes and i bought it.” little things like that. as long as im not a freeloader i dont see the issue with respecting my autonomy.
anyways my mom is very much not the kind to talk back to but if i could slowly push a limit, i would. you gotta let adulthood take the reign and they will have to just deal. it sounds harsh but also not nearly as scary as it seems.
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in this economy i simply can't afford to move out... i make decent money at my current job and i still literally just can't afford rent. i love my mom and i'm grateful that i can live rent free with her but omg sometimes i'm so over it. at the same time i know that when i move out i'm gonna cry because i'll never be able to go back to the way things used to be even though that's a good thing. i just try to focus on each day as its own thing and not think too much about the future. i spend a lot of time either in my room or outside of the house like reading by the lake or walking so i have some alone time. when i was in college (still lived at home at the time bc i went to college 15 min away from my house) i would have friends over for sleepovers and they thought it was so fun that i still lived with my mom so a lot of my anxiety about it was assuaged by that
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late 20s and thriving honestly because I moved back to my parents. no debt, no rent, no cooking. I just go to work, relax, and then work on myself and my business
my relationship with my parents improved so much as I got older. I think when they start respecting you as equally as you respect them, it’s always going to be good.
plus check out their backyard. they got hammocks
Jun 14, 2024
Ive never ever lived with a man and that’s honestly so epic. The concept of together parents is as alien to me as people imagining their parents getting a divorce…
My mom is brave and strong and had the incredible foresight to just do it alone instead of giving me a bad home environment or making me have to process the weight of divorce as an older child. Shoutout my mom
Being a single mom in suburban white America in the early 2000s is kinda rad
She’s also a chef which is a really cool too
May 27, 2025
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mandatory part of the human condition, i fear. i have like 58 but thats besides the point
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liking ur rec = saying hi when we go to get our morning papers from the end of our driveways (picture me doing so tony soprano style)
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actually it’s a me song because i like it. be quiet and listen to this “show me how” by men i trust.
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