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your intent doesn't matter, there is quite literally no fruitful resolution to an online argument with a stranger, no one's gonna learn anything, there's no operating on good faith, no real recognition of humanity.
May 20, 2024
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Tbh these methods also apply to real life, but I think anytime we're confronted with something that elicits strong emotions, it's important to slow down and ask:
1. "Is this deliberate ignorance, or just casual incompetence?" (bigotry = automatic no tolerance)
2. "Is the person on the other side able to engage in discussion in good faith?"
3. "Am I able to talk to them and extend good faith?"
If #1 is deliberate ignorance, then tread carefully. If it's casual incompetence, and #2 or #3 is a "no", then you shouldn't engage at all because no one will be heard & no bridges are built. And of course, if it's bigotry then block/report/ensure proper consequences are had so they don't have a space to spread hateful speech & ideologies.
Be mindful on the internet & make sure to make your words & presence count.
Apr 1, 2025
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any time i see dumb, anger-inducing discourse on my twitter tl I just immediately wave it off and tell myself they are trolling, even if they very well are not. no need to engage with idiotic people even internally.
Mar 19, 2024
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I'm sure there's an actual name for this but I'm blanking on it at the moment. I try to live under the idea that we're all one being. That in everybody is a piece of me, and in me a piece of everyone else.
I guess it's like an extrapolation of 'the golden rule'. But I think to myself like, if I was being ignorant, I'd want someone to have a conversation with me and help me understand where I was wrong. If I was having a bad day and was visibly frustrated in line, I'd want to have someone stop and ask me how I was doing.
I think most negative people are just hurt. The longer you go without talking about what's bothering you, the more bitter you get. Most people, no matter how they're acting, change when you ask them if they're ok. Most of the time (I'll admit, there's some exceptions lol) its better to be sympathetic rather than defensive.
It's easy to get heated but it takes a lot of patience to really try to understand. Stranger or not, I do my best to help rather than provoke. We've all got our bad days, but that doesn't mean we aren't deserving of compassion.
Jan 28, 2025
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tweet from @ web design museum with an archive of cool navigation bars from my childhood. gorgeous and lost.
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