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any time i see dumb, anger-inducing discourse on my twitter tl I just immediately wave it off and tell myself they are trolling, even if they very well are not. no need to engage with idiotic people even internally.
Mar 19, 2024
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Tbh these methods also apply to real life, but I think anytime we're confronted with something that elicits strong emotions, it's important to slow down and ask:
1. "Is this deliberate ignorance, or just casual incompetence?" (bigotry = automatic no tolerance)
2. "Is the person on the other side able to engage in discussion in good faith?"
3. "Am I able to talk to them and extend good faith?"
If #1 is deliberate ignorance, then tread carefully. If it's casual incompetence, and #2 or #3 is a "no", then you shouldn't engage at all because no one will be heard & no bridges are built. And of course, if it's bigotry then block/report/ensure proper consequences are had so they don't have a space to spread hateful speech & ideologies.
Be mindful on the internet & make sure to make your words & presence count.
Apr 1, 2025
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when i worked at the Apple Store / Genius Bar in college, we were trained on "assuming positive intent" from customers and peers. at the time, when i was a shithead 20-year-old, i thought this phrase was such bullshit. of course i can tell when someone has malicious intent, why not respond in kind! but now that i'm a bit older, i've realized the real wisdom behind the idea "assume positive intent" is that, when faced with interpersonal conflict, it's better to take the path of least resistance and keep your cool.
for example, if i'm getting kind of annoyed with someone at work and i want to write a snarky email, i find it best to walk away from the keyboard and write my response when i'm feeling less activated.
the result is that i can feel good about how i handle my feelings, i reflect better on other people, and i'm being an actual grown up. ;~)
Feb 19, 2025
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your intent doesn't matter, there is quite literally no fruitful resolution to an online argument with a stranger, no one's gonna learn anything, there's no operating on good faith, no real recognition of humanity.
May 20, 2024
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today was beautiful and i wasn’t gonna wait around for anybody else so i could seize it!! went for a walk in the park and then to cafe i like to do some work, what did you guys do?
Mar 13, 2024
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this is how you find love. i used to go out dancing by myself because i felt like i could dance more freely around strangers than my friends - i didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of them. but i’m trying to let that go of that now and allow myself to falter around my friends and let them love me anyway.
Jan 5, 2025
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everyday i try to lower my iq i just want peace
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