Loving well I feel can be subjective. To love someone means having control of where you place your love but are you searching for love in return, would this impact your imaginative thoughts of the future? Perhaps it is not loving someone well but loving them at all, who doesn't like to be loved, but that feeling can be unfulfilling if it is not returned.
May 17, 2024
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If you love someone or something, you need to act LOVING. If you aren’t consistently loving in relationships at best they’ll go stale, at worst there will be mistreatment. That includes the relationship with yourself.
Most importantly, if someone says they love you but treat you like garbage, they don’t. Be loving to yourself and leave.
Incorporating this frame of mind into your thoughts and actions is life changing.
Jul 17, 2024
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now I think it’s maybe how I feel about myself.
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Sometimes I get caught up chasing ideals of love. Growing up with immigrant parents in the US, I wished my parents showed me love the way my friends' parents did. My parents seemed cold in comparison to the affection I saw my friends receiving. I fell for best friends who did love me but never enough and never in the ways I wanted them to.
Nowadays I have grown to appreciate the ways in which my parents do show me love -- when they ask if I've eaten or when I dye my mom's hair as she peels me oranges. Friendship to me no longer needs to be tied up in such rigid binaries. It's not the label of a relationship I'm after but rather just the intimacy of knowing other people. I try not to focus so much on how I wish to be loved by other people and instead pay attention to all the different ways I am loved. Acting with a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity. And in that way, everything feels enough.
Disclaimer: Establishing boundaries is paramount. Love that is corrosive or manipulative is not love.
Feb 1, 2024
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I think the biggest thing my therapist helped me realize is that moments that are tough or seasons of your life that seem impossible will not last forever. It is not about sitting in the struggle but understanding how to effectively work through it.
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accept the love that is presented to you and do not run away from it, each opportunity to hang is a bid for connection, take them in stride and with open arms
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Rod Stewart did his big one with this hit
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