but it sounds to me like your company has a sick and toxic culture thatās overly concerned with performance metrics over employee satisfaction and experienceā¦ quantity over quality mindset and seeing you as a resource to be extracted to maximum benefit. There are a lot of corporations like this with high turnover that hire primarily new college graduates who have no context for what a good job looks like and take advantage of that!
Working for a company like this can be demoralizing and the stress and lack of appreciation really grinds you down after a while so I agree with theclack that it might be good to start networking and looking at the other options that are out there for you. I would encourage you when looking at new positions to focus on company culture and read every negative review you can find of whatever company you apply to
May 11, 2024
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Not only could that mere 10 minute lunch be breaking labor laws depending on where you live, but the implication that you don't have value a couple months in is a huge red flag. They hired you, therefore you have value to them, and they are invested in your success. Either they're trying to play mental games early on to squeeze more out of you than is reasonable, or they're not doing their job in providing enough resources to get the job done under healthy conditions. Itās worth noting whether this is a company-wide culture issue, or if itās just your direct manager too.
I don't know the job or what the boss meant by 'work harder,' but it can take anywhere from 1 to 2 years to truly learn a job. Given that it's also your first 'real' gig, there's a whole other dynamic of getting used to a workplace environment, and it's their job to help acclimate you to it. Keep your options open, "manage up" (give honest feedback to your manager about how you feel), connect with your colleagues in the meantime to put pressure on management to change their ways, have your resume updated. If you're starting to burn out and you need to jump ship, it's best to have things in order already, so that stressful situation isn't made worse by feeling like you have to do even more stressful tasks in order to find something else.
tl;dr thatās ass.
May 11, 2024
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society is all like āconsistency is keyā ājust stick it outā āit doesnāt look good on a resume to leave before a couple yearsā (first job out of school) but let me tell you something!!!! trying to make yourself look good on paper is not worth the mental and emotional strain if you hate your job, do not waste your time. Maybe you need a few months to sus it out, sure donāt give up day 1. But never ever ever get too comfortable in a situation you do not like in the first place!!!!! You have got to be your biggest advocate. Otherwise youāll be the only one out here not looking out for your own best interest, and people will use that to their advantage
Mar 11, 2024
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I started out working in a career that was meaningful and provided me with a sense of purpose (I was a high school teacher), but after being worn down by the lack of work/life balance and having no opportunity to pursue my passions outside of work, I transitioned to my current career, which is much easier, and thoroughly just a job.
Albeit, its not soul crushing (as far as jobs go), I work from home, I work for a public employer (so I'm not just making someone else rich), and I have great work life/balance. So having seen both sides, I thank my past-self nearly every day for making the transition.
Anyway, it sounds like we have similar philosophies, which is basically: jobs should be for money, and fulfillment and meaning should be found outside of work (at least in our current capitalist hellscape). So I guess it just comes down to whether or not the soul crushing meaninglessness of your job outweighs the meaning you're able to steal back from outside of it, due to its ease. I know... not really all that helpful, given that you basically already arrived at this conclusion/dilemma š
Oh, I also think easy (and decent paying) jobs are hard to come by and that even meaningful jobs can very easily be made meaningless given the structure/motivations of society. You're also way more likely to be exploited in an industry that runs on passion and meaning due to the fact that social reproduction is valued way below economic production. But then again, change can also be good, and like in my own case, can lead to something even better... so who knows?
Feb 11, 2024
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āLife shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.ā
ā AnaĆÆs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that Iāve safely landed at the start of my new life. Itās honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think itās important to share.
Iāve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, weād have been together for 11 years, and weāve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with peopleāto rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. Heās been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. Iāve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
Iāve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitelyābut someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial andĀ logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and itās going to be tough for a while but Iām going to be better than okay!
Now Iām opening up to you. This isnāt the only abuse Iāve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolationāand breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me š
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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