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doesn’t have to be for the peace and gratification of the people you forgive; it can be for yourself where you recognize that they’re not part of your life anymore, there’s nothing you can do to change what happened, and you don’t have to let them continue to make you suffer from anger. I love Tara Brach’s guided meditations on this and on letting go.
I think also anger is often a protective emotion that covers deeper more vulnerable emotions like feelings of betrayal, shame, sadness, etc. You might find these hiding under your protective shell if you look for them.
I would recommend to people struggling with anger and resentment to also try doing chakra yoga starting at the root and working your way up because this will address and help to clear up some of those underlying feelings first so that you can process in a more clear way.
And Thich Nhat Hanh’s book on anger is great!
I think also anger is often a protective emotion that covers deeper more vulnerable emotions like feelings of betrayal, shame, sadness, etc. You might find these hiding under your protective shell if you look for them.
I would recommend to people struggling with anger and resentment to also try doing chakra yoga starting at the root and working your way up because this will address and help to clear up some of those underlying feelings first so that you can process in a more clear way.
And Thich Nhat Hanh’s book on anger is great!
Apr 24, 2024
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🫂first things first: u never have to forgive someone if u don’t want to. sometimes there is no reason to not move on from a situation, but that’s still your right. you should take all the time u need to make peace with urself and what happened.
my dad once told me that the worst thing you can do to urself is to wish someone else ill will. giving ur energy and thoughts to a situation or person in a way that doesn’t help you process what happened, but only serves to make u upset, is a disservice to urself and ur time. u deserve to be happy and u deserve peace.
look of it as a way of letting go of the negative thoughts and emotions that that situation causes u. forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean ur justifying what they did, but instead respecting ur right to be happy. u can forgive someone and still not continue that relationship with them. seeing forgiveness as a way to allow urself to grow past a situation and not define urself by it, instead of as a mandatory ritual after someone has wronged you, has helped me to move past people and situations that have hurt me and kept me from growing.
my dad once told me that the worst thing you can do to urself is to wish someone else ill will. giving ur energy and thoughts to a situation or person in a way that doesn’t help you process what happened, but only serves to make u upset, is a disservice to urself and ur time. u deserve to be happy and u deserve peace.
look of it as a way of letting go of the negative thoughts and emotions that that situation causes u. forgiving someone doesn’t necessarily mean ur justifying what they did, but instead respecting ur right to be happy. u can forgive someone and still not continue that relationship with them. seeing forgiveness as a way to allow urself to grow past a situation and not define urself by it, instead of as a mandatory ritual after someone has wronged you, has helped me to move past people and situations that have hurt me and kept me from growing.
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🗝Living life independent of grudges, while often difficult, is an essential component of spiritual freedom. Forgiving those who have hurt you allows for positive connections to be fully received with an open heart. Forgiving yourself protects you from the burden of toxic shame, and allows you to look forward to the prospect of self-improvement.
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🕊I’m not advocating for taking everything lying down, to never speak your mind if you need to. But if you can… Sometimes it’s best to move on and let it be. It’s no use staying angry forever, that leaves you bitter and resentful. Forgiveness feels good.
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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