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I am starting to worry that I enjoy my own solitude too much. Rarely going out, I don't feel a need to socialize, make new friends, and dating seems like a risk.
A true quality connection make me happy and feel fullfed but how do I get back to a place of wanting that? Being alone just gets easier and easier. whomp whomp
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i see solitude as metamorphosis. you need that time in the cocoon to really check in with yourself and the joy of that comes from how you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
sometimes i spend SO much time with myself that i get SO BORED that I HAVE to venture outside of myself. when i say venture, i mean challenging myself in how i self- express which will in turn, nourish my interactions with others when i choose to seek company.
proceeding to create art, but trying new methods. going down youtube rabbit holes of things i am interested in so i can discover new references. cooking a meal without following a recipe and surprising myself. making the space i am in super cosy (candles, snacks on deck, music, blankets) going on long walks and picking up conversations with strangers through shared observations of life around us. watching music festivals/boiler rooms and dancing around my room like a mad man.
once you feel comfortable in being by yourself, you'll be more aware of what you need from your company and when you seek it, you'll be a lot more intentional about it and cherish it even more.
Oct 7, 2024
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I used to hate both spending time by myself and being single. would do whatever I could to avoid it. It made me feel unimaginably anxious
Years, lots of therapy, and some really wonderfully healing friendships later, I not only enjoy spending time alone, but have found a level of peace that gives me much higher standards for my romantic relationships, rather than needing to fill the silence
Jun 12, 2024
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growing up I spent a majority of my time alone. I was pretty socially anxious and insecure but I also just had niche hobbies and interest that I enjoyed in solitude since it was hard to find others to share them with. as i’ve gotten older i’ve realized how quickly solitude can become isolation and I found (when deprived by the pandemic and other life changes around that time) that i had a deep need for community and friendship that I had neglected.
now i’m a lot more comfortable in my own skin and confident socially, and while an empty day at home used to be very comforting to me I can’t stand them now. I need to get out of the house and at least be around others haha.
opposite to mouse‘s lyric, I took the myers briggs and swapped all my Is for Es
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