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i see solitude as metamorphosis. you need that time in the cocoon to really check in with yourself and the joy of that comes from how you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
sometimes i spend SO much time with myself that i get SO BORED that I HAVE to venture outside of myself. when i say venture, i mean challenging myself in how i self- express which will in turn, nourish my interactions with others when i choose to seek company.
proceeding to create art, but trying new methods. going down youtube rabbit holes of things i am interested in so i can discover new references. cooking a meal without following a recipe and surprising myself. making the space i am in super cosy (candles, snacks on deck, music, blankets) going on long walks and picking up conversations with strangers through shared observations of life around us. watching music festivals/boiler rooms and dancing around my room like a mad man.
once you feel comfortable in being by yourself, you'll be more aware of what you need from your company and when you seek it, you'll be a lot more intentional about it and cherish it even more.
Oct 7, 2024
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once you get to know yourself better internally, you'll realize there are parts of yourself you can't access when you're out in the world, and you'll look forward to having your own company to visit them. it also helps yes, to do things and have hobbies, but also just going new places alone. people don't talk about this enough but depression and loneliness can very much be tied to a place, and if the only time you're alone is when you're in your room, you'll probably associate it with feeling sad and stuck. keep up a whimsical spirit and go exploring alone and think of things you never would in the company of others. make it special and you'll start to look forward to it.
Feb 26, 2025
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In order to know what you want in life, what you're interested in, what your passions are, you have to spend time with yourself. If you're constantly surrounding yourself with people, you can't understand who you are. You put your energy into pleasing other people, but when you're alone, that energy is focused on yourself.
Apr 28, 2025
are you picking flowers to give to people you love to ‘prove that you’re a gardener’, and then wondering why your garden is so empty?
here are some of my thoughts on what it means to cultivate self and environment in a way where you’re both still blooming :)
in a world in constant competition to “show up“, how often are you showing up for yourself? recently i’ve found myself at a social plateau where i have slowly melded into the things and people i love. and while this is lovely, it’s a great reminder that an evening of hammocking alone on the mountain or riding your bike somewhere new is not indicative of a state of ‘lack’, but rather a state of self fulfillment and ’being’. tell someone you love them today and then keep that feeling with you as you walk the river alone, or go to work alone, or drive around to your favorite song! <3
Jun 21, 2025
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a myth dating from the victorian period, these tiny, decorative glass bottles were wept into by those mourning their loved ones. once the tears collected eventually evaporated, this marked the end of their mourning period.
this myth has been debunked by scientists, with others saying that these bottles were in fact used to store perfumes, but i'm very obsessed with this romantic notion and will be sticking to it!
Feb 18, 2025
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*shines bright light in your face*
But WHY do you like what you like?!
Echoing a sentiment from Tyler, the Creator, where he tweeted for people to expand on what they liked about his songs and delve into the WHY (i.e the bridge, chords, riffs)
Truly believe it’s so so important to be able to articulate why things bring us enjoyment, pleasure and giddiness, because that just makes way for one to obsess/ research and learn more about said thing!
This is basically a gratitude post for PI, I just love blagging about what makes this Little Life of Mine more bearable !!!
Sep 27, 2024
Nala Sinephro's Endlessness has been on constant repeat, she has created a psychedelic yet ethereal jazz sound that is so uniquely hers.
Kelela just released a live album that's so stunning (In the Blue Light), she touches on how her Dad instilled the jazz gene in her and it showsss.
Sade - Promise is also very smooth jazz sounding, and tbh who can say no to the soothing tones of Sade in the morning?
Would be amiss not to mention some Bossa Nova - my go-to picks are a lovers pair, Astrud Gilberto (The Astraud Gilberto Album) and Joao Gilberto (Getz/Gilberto #2 - Live at Carnegie Hall)
Mar 5, 2025