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i see solitude as metamorphosis. you need that time in the cocoon to really check in with yourself and the joy of that comes from how you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
sometimes i spend SO much time with myself that i get SO BORED that I HAVE to venture outside of myself. when i say venture, i mean challenging myself in how i self- express which will in turn, nourish my interactions with others when i choose to seek company.
proceeding to create art, but trying new methods. going down youtube rabbit holes of things i am interested in so i can discover new references. cooking a meal without following a recipe and surprising myself. making the space i am in super cosy (candles, snacks on deck, music, blankets) going on long walks and picking up conversations with strangers through shared observations of life around us. watching music festivals/boiler rooms and dancing around my room like a mad man.
once you feel comfortable in being by yourself, you'll be more aware of what you need from your company and when you seek it, you'll be a lot more intentional about it and cherish it even more.
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once you get to know yourself better internally, you'll realize there are parts of yourself you can't access when you're out in the world, and you'll look forward to having your own company to visit them. it also helps yes, to do things and have hobbies, but also just going new places alone. people don't talk about this enough but depression and loneliness can very much be tied to a place, and if the only time you're alone is when you're in your room, you'll probably associate it with feeling sad and stuck. keep up a whimsical spirit and go exploring alone and think of things you never would in the company of others. make it special and you'll start to look forward to it.
Feb 26, 2025
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There are lots of reasons that spending time alone can feel scary, so if this doesnโt feel true or land right just take whatever resonates! discomfort around alone time might indicate avoiding sitting with some uncomfortable/painful feeling or other. practicing mindfulness, even if for a few minutes can be helpful. (Meditating, drawing, paying attention to your senses)
If the sound of that fills u with dread, you could also think of some goals you have for yourself right now and look at what steps you could do to get you closer to accomplishing them! A lot of projects require some amount of solo work and planning!
if Iโm stuck feeling frustrated/uncomfortable I turn to solo dance parties, making bad art, and organizing my space as a way to transition into alone time
Remember, ur fun and u get to hang out with urself, how neat is that!
Jan 12, 2025
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I am starting to worry that I enjoy my own solitude too much. Rarely going out, I don't feel a need to socialize, make new friends, and dating seems like a risk.
A true quality connection make me happy and feel fullfed but how do I get back to a place of wanting that? Being alone just gets easier and easier. whomp whomp
Apr 23, 2024
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a myth dating from the victorian period, these tiny, decorative glass bottles were wept into by those mourning their loved ones. once the tears collected eventually evaporated, this marked the end of their mourning period.
this myth has been debunked by scientists, with others saying that these bottles were in fact used to store perfumes, but i'm very obsessed with this romantic notion and will be sticking to it!
Feb 18, 2025
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*shines bright light in your face*
But WHY do you like what you like?!
Echoing a sentiment from Tyler, the Creator, where he tweeted for people to expand on what they liked about his songs and delve into the WHY (i.e the bridge, chords, riffs)
Truly believe itโs so so important to be able to articulate why things bring us enjoyment, pleasure and giddiness, because that just makes way for one to obsess/ research and learn more about said thing!
This is basically a gratitude post for PI, I just love blagging about what makes this Little Life of Mine more bearable !!!
Sep 27, 2024
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calling all perfectly imperfect users inna london town !!
on tuesday nov 19th colle is having an album release party at Sebright Arms
only discovered colle today, but would describe their sound as dreamy and shoe-gazey.
the lineup is looking p sweet, with chanel beads dj'ing (found out about them on pi and their new album, your day will come has been on constant repeat)
any takers? think it would be nice to meet up and connect over some sweet tunes !
Nov 4, 2024