sometimes the easiest way is to let it pass. Sometimes go wreck something. Other times its really whatever you feel like doing at the time. I'm at that very part of my life where nothing feels right. I don't know how not to feel this way, but i can always ask myself what i want and try to give myself whatever it is that i feel i need at the time.
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Same. Ive felt in a loop of sorts. Like how do you let it all go. Like really let it go. Knowing that you had the answers and were denied the right to choose
Dec 25, 2024
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What do feel? Where in your body are you carrying your emotions?
Many of our patterns are learned behaviors that have helped us get our needs met. Maybe they were behaviors that were better suited for a different environment (like our childhoods), or maybe they have helped us get our needs met a little bit but not in the best or most fulfilling way.
First, it helps to know what our needs are so we can connect them to our patterns/behaviors, and our needs reveal themselves in our feelings.
I’m a major intellectualizer of my feelings. I can articulate the problems and my motivations and many of the root causes of those problems, but then my therapist would ask “How are you feeling right now?” and I’d have no idea. I would have to *think* about it rather than sit with my body and feel it.
Learning to check in with myself helps me to get a clearer picture of what I need. That might start with my physical sensations. Am I tired and need rest? Am I hungry and need food? It can also be about naming emotions. Am I anxious and reassurance? Am I lonely and need connection? Am I feeling overwhelmed and need space?
Don’t talk yourself out of what you’re feeling. Not all feelings are capital-T true, especially as they relate to the external world, but all feelings contain truths to what you need and can bring you closer to taking new and potentially healthier actions.
Nov 28, 2024
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mostly just doing the things that I’m somewhat passionate about.
often I’m used to tag around people and do the minimum of what’s expected of me.
so finding my own way through great emotional stimulation is the thing that works lately. (even though I don’t have certain life goals etc)
maybe a change of scenery?
or doing more things that excites you?
I think that sometimes great decisions don’t stem from a certainty so don’t dwell on not knowing what to do. I accepted that it’s normal and the best thing for me is to do things that make me happy
Apr 22, 2024
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i see the letters and hear the sounds in my head but for some reason i just ignore saying it
Apr 26, 2024
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DOES ANYONE KNOW HOW TO STOP HAVING A FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED. I GET REALLY AWKWARD BECAUSE OF THIS. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT.
Apr 23, 2024
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I have always had a fear of destroying my skin by applying stuff on it that i don't really need. Inherited hormonal acne and you'd think the fear would go away.Most of the people i know my age who have suffered skin issues particularly acne always end up on a skin experimental journey of sorts.
I admit i did fall victim to tret and clozole-B. Solely because of the promise of clear skin.No clear understanding of what i was putting on my skin. Even then something felt off about it. Now determined to care for my skin, i have done some research and still continue to. This is what i have found so far.
My type of acne is hormonal. My forehead for the most part is clear. My cheeks, jawline and chin suffers the most. I also previously thought that i had oily skin. Turns out i just have combination skin. An oily T-zone and dry to normal cheeks. My skin barrier suffered some damage from the use of actives, lack of moisturizer and not wearing sunscreen.
To aid my skin barrier in the healing process i need to simplify my skin care routine and thoroughly understand products and their ingredients. I settled for a moisturizing cleanser that doesn't contain alcohol( it dries out the skin), a good moisturizer that contains ceramides and a sunscreen. I use a chemical sunscreen. La Roche possay works for me because it is light weight and doesn't leave a white cast on top of having good coverage.
I plan on having weekly or bi weekly steaming sessions. Maybe later incorporate sheet masks. I got an alcohol free toner for hydration. I only wash my face at night, do my skin care way before bed to minimize leaving all the product on my pillow. I apply just sunscreen in the morning and re apply when i get off work.
My skin seems to be loving this. I should mention that i started using this products one by one so that i can tell which one doesn't work. This is too long. I'll update later.
Apr 26, 2024