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I'd assume the process of getting a wedding together can be quite stressful and I wonder to what lengths/ends people go to make the wedding experience about making themselves and their partners happy vs making other people happy - it is easy to get "lost in the sauce" so to speak
BUT I totally feel you on the experience of missing out or rejecting multiple life experiences, I didn't walk at graduation bc COVID shut everything down and I didn't go to the makeup graduation since I was working and the wind was knocked out of my sails. I think being discouraged or isolated can make these experiences feel quite worthless
Apr 18, 2024
aidanaguirre wedding planning is my nightmare… also yeah absolutely the dejection and isolation were such a big part of why I chose not to participate so many of these experiences
Apr 18, 2024
Having a wedding seems so sucky lmao. Confused though -> because even my dad who doesn’t care about ANYTHING said I shouldn’t elope, and that I would regret not having a wedding.
Apr 17, 2024
same here, i feel like i have a 10 year delay on every life milestone and it used to make me feel so bad but i’ve learnt to be okay with my own pace for the most part. even if that pace was heavily influenced by strict parents.
and the whole wedding thing is relatable too bc growing up i never gave much thought to it, didn’t have a “dream wedding” in mind, didn’t make pinterest boards about it… but lately i’ve been feeling inclined to dabble in the idea of a small ceremony with people i love (mind you, i don’t even have a partner lol). maybe it’s just me not rejecting certain girlhood stereotypes as i did before.
Apr 17, 2024
paulina a small gathering like that is so beautiful and intimate and much more special and meaningful imo 💖 in general I think it’s so important to do things in life in your own way and not according to prescribed social notions
Apr 17, 2024
i had a wedding! i hated planning it (unpaid internship vibes) and it was far too expensive. mostly did it for our family but i wish we had eloped and fucked off to japan for a month just the two of us instead. all this to say - ur take is very valid and ultimately marriage isn’t about other people anyway
Apr 17, 2024
another certified taterhole classic
FUCK YES TO THE WEDDING THING. and on top of everything else, the STRESS? absolutely tf not. so much of the wedding party shit and like who you "have to" invite and who to sit where so they don't turn it into a shitshow would just make me wanna hide in a cave forever
AND EXPENSIVE. like no wonder it has to be the best day of your life; if you're putting house down-payment money for a glorified family reunion, at that point it's obligated to be
Apr 17, 2024
el_ugh !!!!!!!! 🙌 literally I really do see it as such a waste of money to have an extravagant wedding for any person of average means. And just the thought of planning a wedding gives me an ULCER and creating this highly structured day and telling all of my guests what to do 🥴 I know there is a lowkey diy pleasant way to do it though it doesn’t have to be so… much
Apr 17, 2024
el_ugh and YEAH I also think it can really create unrealistic expectations for what a marriage is supposed to look like leading to disappointment because the everyday humdrum can’t live up to the excitement. Also sunk cost fallacy for people in a bad marriage with all of the time effort and money they put into it and the fact that everyone they know came to their wedding lol
Apr 17, 2024
