This would be something to talk to your therapist about it might open up some interesting lines of self-inquiry and greater depth if you can interrogate and push past these new feelings of resistance. And I am really sorry things are tough for you right now i hope life gets better soon. thank you for being vulnerable and seeking guidance!
Apr 17, 2024
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lately ive been in touch with someone who i have a lot of complicated emotions about and in general ive been trying 2 be very level headed about it, 2 not go 2 hard in either direction. however yesterday we kind of ended up having a more relaxed and honest talk which then led 2 me pretty much spilling my guts out
i mainly wanted 2 give decent advice about a thing we both struggle with from a perspective of a person who lived and coped with it longer and that partially went into a lot more of a harsh subject matter. it seemed pretty useful at first but then the conversation slowed 2 a crawl and it was just me talking about my previous pain into the void
i don't exactly regret it, after all if we are 2 be close again in any shape or form we got 2 be honest with each other, but it still sucks because i went somewhere that's very much a sore subject for me and presumably for them. pulling this kind of act is pretty difficult emotionally and I just woke up and im still thinking about it
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i need to do this shit again honestly
cannot overstate how fucking helpful it is to be able to process externally with someone that doesn’t actually know you and has tools to decode your rhetoric to the essence of what you’re actually saying. if nothing else it feels like having a metric ton of weight lifted off your back. shit is honestly incredible when you get a good one
Dec 5, 2024
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and how you are feeling about it
p.s. — is this a cry for help?
Oct 16, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024