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💭Remember that, smart alecks!
Some more of my core guiding principles around this idea:
Truth and fact are two sides of the same coin.
They are interconnected but not interchangeable.
On a similar note:
Truth is complex and often paradoxical.
If you think you can lay it out in black and white terms, sorry bud – you don’t have a handle on it. The capacity to hold space for seemingly conflicting ideas is essential. That means letting go of the idea that your truth is the truth.
Critique something/someone only from a place of understanding ^ did a whole rec on this. To add to it: if you spend a lot of time criticizing those who you disagree with, whose benefit is it for? Mainly it’s a signifier to those who you do agree with that you’re part of the same in-group. That’s fine and it has its place, but constructively challenging the views and behaviors of those within your own community (including yourself!) is much more valuable. And on that note: Understanding ≠ condoning Most people skip the work of trying to truly understand because they’re afraid they’ll seem complicit. Say someone commits a violent crime. Trying to understand the familial, socioeconomic, and systemic circumstances that factored in – developing empathy for this person – does not mean you condone the behavior or that you care any less for the victim of their crime. You are not doing any good to the cause of peace of justice or whatever you claim to stand for by refusing to understand people (however fucked up and misguided they may be). ——— Ok that’s long enough, maybe I’ll drop some fun ones in another post lol bye
Critique something/someone only from a place of understanding ^ did a whole rec on this. To add to it: if you spend a lot of time criticizing those who you disagree with, whose benefit is it for? Mainly it’s a signifier to those who you do agree with that you’re part of the same in-group. That’s fine and it has its place, but constructively challenging the views and behaviors of those within your own community (including yourself!) is much more valuable. And on that note: Understanding ≠ condoning Most people skip the work of trying to truly understand because they’re afraid they’ll seem complicit. Say someone commits a violent crime. Trying to understand the familial, socioeconomic, and systemic circumstances that factored in – developing empathy for this person – does not mean you condone the behavior or that you care any less for the victim of their crime. You are not doing any good to the cause of peace of justice or whatever you claim to stand for by refusing to understand people (however fucked up and misguided they may be). ——— Ok that’s long enough, maybe I’ll drop some fun ones in another post lol bye
Jul 17, 2024
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😃I try to remember this a lot when I’m frustrated with people. Nobody is out to get you. Others are thinking about themselves most of the time anyway. Communication is so important- people can’t meet expectations if you don’t make them known.
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📰i judge people, everyone judges people, the second you walk into a room with other people in it, you get judged. whether it be good or bad judgement, you're always going to be judged by other people, it's just knowing when and what to say. if someone walks in with a haircut that i personally don't like on them, but they really like it, i'm not going to burst their bubble and say that i don't like it, because that's just mean. if something someone is doing is genuinely a bad thing to do, then i will let them know but in a nice way. i'll approach the topic in as civil a manner as i can and if they continue to do this bad thing then i might start getting a little angry or mean with them. but if someone's done or doing something that doesn't affect me or the people around them and they're happy with what they're doing, i'm not going to say that i don't like it, even if its the truth, because their happy and i don't want to ruin that.
as someone who has grown up constantly being told by my own mother everything bad she thinks about me as soon as i tell her something or walk into a room, i know i don't appreciate when people put bad judgement onto me for something that's not affecting them. so i always try my best to do the same for others, and of course occasionally i will say something that's a little out of order, everyone does at some stage. you just need to accept your mistakes, grow from them and move on.
it's really not that difficult to be kind!!
as someone who has grown up constantly being told by my own mother everything bad she thinks about me as soon as i tell her something or walk into a room, i know i don't appreciate when people put bad judgement onto me for something that's not affecting them. so i always try my best to do the same for others, and of course occasionally i will say something that's a little out of order, everyone does at some stage. you just need to accept your mistakes, grow from them and move on.
it's really not that difficult to be kind!!
Jun 3, 2025
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😃Nothing is as powerful than just sitting down and doing it. I have been plagued by my perfectionism. even my mood has to be in the correct zone before starting something but that makes me not do anything. if you want to write, pick up a pen and a notebook. dont overthink. jut write anything that pops into your mind. sames goes with starting anything.
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🏛The things you want to say no to, dress up, be there.
Dont force yourself to small talks or to mingle.
Just be there, find a familiar face, say hi.
That's it.
When you say no, people won't think that you're shy, they'll think you're not interested. So when schedule permits it, be there. At the parties, the student clubs, the hangouts.
When you say no, people won't think that you're shy, they'll think you're not interested. So when schedule permits it, be there. At the parties, the student clubs, the hangouts.
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♥️I haven't been in a relationship my whole life, only ever dated, thinking about dedicating a part of my life to other people seems like such a task and a burden.