yes, many tastes may not necessarily align but we are here to be ourselves in our discussions of recommendations. Have I seen recs I disagree with? Yes, but it âs better to be constructive (bordering on the way a creative writing seminar produced at my most depressed) here than be a total hater against another here. Honesty and reality predicates hating and violence!
Apr 5, 2024
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I fully acknowledge my privilege this recommendation. I have the privilege to be able to build bridges because, though I am able to be dismissed because I'm a femme-presenting woman, I am much less viscerally threatened in general because I am white.
That being said, I feel like I have turned a new leaf in that I largely refuse to contribute to in-fighting discussions. In my mind, we are all in a race against the 1% but they have tricked us into thinking we are in a race with each other. I have decided to let go of the race. I have decided that whether they fear, pity, hate, whatever me, I'm going to value "the opposition" as people and when they are able to figure out who we should be actually fighting, I will be there happy to provide resources and supplies that I have in the aid of this goal. Until then, I'll be around.
The isolation that has been bred since long before I was born has just destroyed a sense of community, something that I yearn so much for. I know that people do things that bring me harm. For instance, I still take many COVID precautions and am part of two COVID safe communities. However, I know that the large majority of the population no longer cares and does, unwillingly or not, participate in a lack of overall health safety for me and my family, as well as their own safety. But I'm not going to isolate, I'm going to take precautions to continue to be part of community. I believe folding people in together is the only way forward.
My brother is a huge fan of Elon Musk, which is so gross and awful. I used to shut down conversations about this but I've decided to be open, honest, and present with him about this. I check Elon's behavior to him, let him know that I believe his actions are on purpose and that my brother is making nazi sympathizer choices with his thoughts and actions. I also let him know that when it's ready to fight, I want him to be on our side, which he states he would be (idk). That's all I can do. Keep communication open. Keep connection open. Make these sympathizers not fear "the others" because I am willing to participate and provide and talk.
Now, none of this means I'm willing to lay down as terrible beliefs ravage our society. I am still able to be critical of others choices and I will defend myself and my family against harm if need be. I just believe that the core of most of the harm and violence comes from the top. I believe that people are emotionally thrown for a loop when they come to a conversation with fear-based hostility and find community-based hospitality in response.
I will continue to advocate for the people who are being brutalized our community. I believe, however, that they need to hear us first. They need to see us as human, and I think part of that is showing them that we see them as human. Yes, flawed scared scapegoating humans that need to be held responsible for their actions if and when they participate in violence. I'm not talking about conceding or finding "common ground" in our beliefs beyond the basic humans need food water shelter (and love if they're about that). I may acknowledge their fear, the influences that they have been under, and the things surround their hate. I will try to come at it at as loving as a place as I can, always reminding myself that they were once babies shaped to view the world as this big scary thing filled with monsters, taught by the actual monsters who want to control everything.
Again, I'm only recommending this if you have the energy to do so. I think a lot of people have tried for years and then get burned out. I get that, I think getting stronger within your own community would help grow the ability to then reach outside and communicate. At the same time, my friend and I were talking about how some people are just "front of house" and some are "back of house" and the front of house people can be the ones interacting with society and the back of house can build the inside. We don't all have to do everything, let's find out strengths and build on those to get through, and maybe even past, the shit show we find ourselves living in today.
Jan 31, 2025
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iâm sort of anti-cancel culture (not in the obnoxious right wing way, in the âmaybe we should try talking to people first if they arenât acting in bad faithâ way) and at the same time idk i actually donât think everything should be enjoyed without critique. itâs actually not bad to offer legitimate concerns or critiques of things people enjoy if the thing is problematic or harmful. sometimes things other people think are fun or funny are actually kinda mean or fucked up and we donât have to pretend thatâs ok
Oct 5, 2024
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I love someone thatâs just like ânahâ. I feel like since the internet has gotten so big and mainstream, so many people just agree with what everyone thinks to look like a âgood personâ (just my opinion). I just love someone that stands on their shit and is willing to die on a hill for it. Yes they might be wrong (dead ass wrong) but you gotta give it up to the people that really believe in what they believe.
Mar 3, 2025
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so much to talk about, the sunglasses, the scarf, the fresh baguette and coffee, the always lovely cafe setting. I think this is the most swag ever captured on camera I aspire to be at this level
Feb 11, 2024
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the greatest love song of the 21st century??? waitâŠ. They donât love you like I love you
Feb 25, 2024
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alright hear me out: carbonation and coffee with a squeeze of orange shouldnât work, but it does. Been making them daily and i feel a lot better in the morning each time i do
Mar 7, 2024