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Answering my own rec: we should understand how much permissiveness we allow for antisocial behavior

I have a pretty laissez-faire attitude towards most things but sometimes I’m afraid of certain parts of society backsliding and social fabric/mores being undone just for the sake of it getting undone. Wish I could elaborate more

@aidanaguirre

Mar 27, 2024

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