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if you haven’t read it yet… do. I linked the pdf it’s only 164 pages and it is so so complex and sweet and fucking horribly sad, so amazing how it’s all packed in there.
Mar 4, 2024
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this book will hurt you. read if you want to feel anguish! If you want to yearn 🥲
Feb 13, 2024
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One of my all time favorite books and I would sell my kidneys to read it for the first time.
“Do you think anything else under heaven really matters? And how long, at the best, can it last? since you are both men and still have everywhere to go? Only five minutes, I assure you, only five minutes, and most of that, hélas! in the dark. And if you think of them as dirty, then they will be dirty—they will be dirty because you will be giving nothing, you will be despising your flesh and his. But you can make your time together anything but dirty; you can give each other something which will make both of you better—forever—if you will not be ashamed, if you will only not play it safe.” He paused, watching me, and then looked down to his cognac. “You play it safe long enough,” he said, in a different tone, “and you’ll end up trapped in your own dirty body, forever and forever and forever—like me.”
I cried for 2 days straight after reading this.. TWO DAYS!!
My favorite excerpt from the entire book. James Baldwin is a genius and may his heavenly soul rest in peace.
May 12, 2025
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because he’s the king of the hill. obviously. and will make you feel everything.
Other recs:
The World Accoridng to Garp by John Irving is one of the most fucked up and disturbing books I’ve ever read. feel like I almost can’t in good conscience recommend it. But you will feel ill!
The bluest eye. Also super fucked up and sad.
OH! Boy snow bird by Helen oheyemi. Unbelievably good, language is stunning, trippy but heartbreaking.
ok that’s the list.
Mar 12, 2024
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i find as an unhealed person who doesn’t have a good sense of self respect or mindfulness sex kind of causes a lot of problems for me interpersonal and personal.
at least a break in looking at WHY you’re having sex, and what kind of sexual scripts you’re following without even realizing.. what parts of yourself are you reinforcing and/or reducing when you enter sexual situations?
i think sex can be mistaken for intimacy sometimes, is this the form of intimacy that serves you best? what conditions do you think you need to have sex that makes you feel good and genuine? do you feel you have emotional agency in your sex life?
(edit: also! sex is so fucking vulnerable! of course being vulnerable is how you form connections.. but to perform vulnerability is not the same and it happens a lot!)
i also have a lot of personal disgust towards sexual scripts put on by pornography (violence, minors, cnc ect.) the rad fem aspect of sex/porn is a whole nother beast, i’d recommend looking into bdsm ect through that lense if it’s something you are looking for more insight towards. (obviously fuck TERF and try to avoid those rabbit holes, but radical feminism affirmed a lot of theories i had on why sex/sexuality is/are such a point of shame and contention for young people)
ANYWAY, i am only 20 so take this with a grain of salt but i think that naturalism fucks with peoples potential for healthy and fulfilling sex lives, preset scripts about what it should be and what it has been. If the sex you’re having feels wrong it probably is, and you have agency to change that, just take a break and reevaluate.
Mar 6, 2024
ive done this in my journal for the past couple years and it’s definitely a performance for your future self to look back on.. but not rlly in a bad way
Mar 4, 2024
I made one inbetween rushes for my coworkers baby shower yesterday and even though it was just on a piece of printer paper it was so fun
a couple years ago for christmas i drew all my friends a very personal card with their names in pictures and fonts i thought they would like and it was so fun to get to show them how i perceived them or the things they enjoy
Mar 11, 2024