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ive done this in my journal for the past couple years and it’s definitely a performance for your future self to look back on.. but not rlly in a bad way
Mar 4, 2024
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instead of stressing and creating an ugly google doc of answers - I’m sitting here journaling them as if these are questions I actually want to write about on my own.
Also in general I guess some interview questions are pretty introspective, so they work as journal prompts too!!
Feb 29, 2024
is whatever works for you. i used to feel daunted by journaling, until i listened to a "psychology of your 20s" podcast episode about it.
here are some notes i took (with my personal takeaways mixed in)
• journaling doesn’t need to be "good." it doesn’t need to look nice. it’s strictly for you. no mistakes, no bad entries—except for ones that weren’t written—no wrong thoughts, no assignment grade. it’s a self-care, self-love practice. one of the only times that everything gets to be about you, and you get to do it in the way that works best, as long as you’re doing it.
• write about something going on in your brain. journaling is organizing, cleaning things up, making sense of things you can’t work out just by thinking about them over and over again. try to think about them in a way you normally wouldn’t, by writing about them. not looking for a solution or answer, but just to process what you’ve been through.
• write 1-2 pages, even less than 500 words. small investment, can take as little as 5 minutes.
• only journal when you really feel the need. making it a goal to journal everyday takes the fun out of it. journaling should be something relieving, joyous. it can be one line, something you thought about, something you heard. what is really important to you?
• journaling = life course correction, not an intense commitment/practice. like a painkiller. you take it when you need it. when you feel the urge to write, just do it. drop everything. put the thoughts begging to come out down somewhere. don’t ignore inspiration when it randomly strikes. that desire isn’t something you can consciously call on. take advantage of the moments, even if just a second, even in the notes app. get in the habit of letting it be expressed.
• find a way to journal in a manner that suits you. find your reason. snapshot for future self?
• let someone else do the initial thinking for you. journal prompts, structured journal, online inspiration, write one prompt a week in the afternoon
• write quickly and without judgment. not worried about exactly how you wanted to say it, word it, doesn’t matter. there's no audience or grade. journal "badly" = more in-tune with self. journaling helps you remember who you are from the inside out at the time of writing.
• if you feel like you don’t know yourself, keep one notebook you put everything in: thoughts, quotes you like, postcards, to-do lists, diary entries, favorite songs, letters, dried flowers, brain dumps, gratitude lists, sticky notes, pictures
hope this helps some people get started !
Nov 8, 2024
talk to yourself about your feelings as if you were someone else observing your thoughts. very good way to organize and regulate your emotions/learn how to love yourself. very important to do before you can love anyone else.
Apr 28, 2025
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if you haven’t read it yet… do. I linked the pdf it’s only 164 pages and it is so so complex and sweet and fucking horribly sad, so amazing how it’s all packed in there.
Mar 4, 2024
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i find as an unhealed person who doesn’t have a good sense of self respect or mindfulness sex kind of causes a lot of problems for me interpersonal and personal.
at least a break in looking at WHY you’re having sex, and what kind of sexual scripts you’re following without even realizing.. what parts of yourself are you reinforcing and/or reducing when you enter sexual situations?
i think sex can be mistaken for intimacy sometimes, is this the form of intimacy that serves you best? what conditions do you think you need to have sex that makes you feel good and genuine? do you feel you have emotional agency in your sex life?
(edit: also! sex is so fucking vulnerable! of course being vulnerable is how you form connections.. but to perform vulnerability is not the same and it happens a lot!)
i also have a lot of personal disgust towards sexual scripts put on by pornography (violence, minors, cnc ect.) the rad fem aspect of sex/porn is a whole nother beast, i’d recommend looking into bdsm ect through that lense if it’s something you are looking for more insight towards. (obviously fuck TERF and try to avoid those rabbit holes, but radical feminism affirmed a lot of theories i had on why sex/sexuality is/are such a point of shame and contention for young people)
ANYWAY, i am only 20 so take this with a grain of salt but i think that naturalism fucks with peoples potential for healthy and fulfilling sex lives, preset scripts about what it should be and what it has been. If the sex you’re having feels wrong it probably is, and you have agency to change that, just take a break and reevaluate.
Mar 6, 2024
I made one inbetween rushes for my coworkers baby shower yesterday and even though it was just on a piece of printer paper it was so fun
a couple years ago for christmas i drew all my friends a very personal card with their names in pictures and fonts i thought they would like and it was so fun to get to show them how i perceived them or the things they enjoy
Mar 11, 2024