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You're a breeze

I also feel the pull to constantly reinvent myself. I feel like four or five characters mooshed together sometimes fighting for the right to express their personality. It feels very powerful to say "I contain multitudes!" which is true for every person. That feels comforting and exciting. I'm fine constantly expressing myself differently as long as I don't go out and buy an entire new wardrobe or all the materials for three new hobbies. I'm learning ways to express with my words and the way I carry myself and my outlook on life.

@preliminary_yellow_yak

Oct 1, 2024

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Recognizing its ok to have many different chapters in your life

You can be a grungy, graffiti adjacent, Abes Pagoda, Bushwick Princess For a few years and then transport to a high heel wearing, velvet lounge drinking, networking warrior. It’s your life and it’s ok to play characters.

@bonannza

Feb 3, 2024

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accepting who you are (and who you are not)

Late night ramblings; please scroll along if you’re looking for a little paragraph. My career is very…forward facing and focused on being ‘the guy,’ as in the one in charge. The face. The frontrunner. So I’ve spent years of my life learning to be the best version of ‘the guy’ as possible. And I’ve gotten really, really good. But it’s exhausting. Like absolutely tiring. And it’s not tiring because it’s work, it’s tiring because it’s something I’ve had to force myself to learn to do well. Regardless of how good I am at it (remember: really, really good) it just isn’t my natural gifting to be ‘the guy.’ And so I decided to become ‘the guy behind the guy.’ In my world we jokingly call that role #2. Turns out I’m an incredible #2. Like absolutely spectacularly the best #2 I’ve ever seen, objectively. I’m the best second-in-command person for this role ever. Bar none. And it’s not because it’s something I had to learn to do, it’s because this is just who I am, how I’m hardwired, and what I was born to do. It’s become clear to me that you can do something really well and still have it kill you. I think if I kept trying for #1 I’d eventually arrive at the place where I could be it, but it would slowly and surely begin to destroy me. The constant need to be at the forefront would be too much. I’ve been told in a party setting, I might not be the guy at the center telling the story (although I can be, and I can tell that story excellently) but I am definitely the person who made that whole party happen in the first place. I’m behind the scenes. I’m the strategist. The planner and the executer. And for some that seems like a bad thing, being the person who always makes the things happen so someone else can shine. But for me it feels like exactly what I was meant to do. When I first realized this, I thought I was a failure. Like how could I not want to be #1? How could I feel like #2 was as far as I needed to go? Wouldn’t it be disappointing to always be subservient to someone else? Wouldn’t it be embarrassing to never become #1? — No. Not at all. Because whether I like it or not, I am not meant to be #1, at least not in this role. I’m making it clear to myself and everyone around me that I am the best #2 in existence. Be who you are, not who you think you should be or who you’re expected to be. Be true to that and thrive in the freedom that comes with the revelation that you might have been destined to do something else, something maybe even better. Release yourself of the weight of expectations and instead lean into the idea that to operate in your ‘gifting’ is to be free and weightless and fulfilled. Be the best person you can be, whether #1 or #2 or #7 or #19 or #33 — walk in that confidently. You might have been born (or destined or chosen or karmically moved) to do this.

@marianoleonczik

Jun 8, 2024

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Protecting your energy

Sometimes it’s not worth it. Retreat!!!!!

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spring

I know I’ve had 32 of them, but spring is blowing my mind this year. Favorite season hands down.

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🫦 Eating on camera

Yeah, I eat onscreen on Zoom calls. I feel like it not only normalizes the human body and its vast array of needs but also it’s kind of a badass power move. yeah I’m confident. Yeah I need to eat. Yeah you have watch me. 💅🏾

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