You gotta love yourself before you can love anybody else. Thereās a difference between loneliness and solitude. Everything else falls into place once youāre ok on your own.
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maggie nelson says āloneliness is solitude with a problemā and wrote about how if one does oneās solitude right, the prize is an ability to love without losing yourself entirely. this has really helped me reframe how i see the past few years of feeling lonely and my discomfort with being single - these days iāve been sorta leaning into my āsolitudeā and just really working on coming back to myself and my identity, and trying to see myself as whole even while on my own + appreciating the platonic love i already have in my life
Jun 2, 2024
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Though some people might find this kind of depressing I actually see it as the opposite. Itās really been a while since Iāve done this but I see it necessary to go on a date with yourself once in a while. Go to a cafe, take a walk without any destination in mind, or you might as well go to the cinema on your own.
More than an act of self love I perceive it as a way to embrace solitude and get to know yourself more; It brings so much inner peace and helps to heal that part of yourself that finds loneliness daunting. There is a beauty in everything and solitude is not the exception.
Oct 7, 2024
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sometimes we mistake feeling alone with being lonely .
home is where the heart is, and
if you feel lost then you should look for yourself.
find out what makes you tick then youāll never feel alone because you always have yourself.
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(Not literally.)
Iām of the belief that platonic relationships are just as important as romantic ones. Build a community of folks who meet you where you are and with whom you feel safe and vice versa!
In a perfect world they see all versions of you from rock bottom to ascending, not unlike the intimacy usually reserved for a lover. Fuck that heteronormative bullshit. Do that with your friends. They will give you grace and hold you accountable for foolishness. If you donāt have people like this, go out and make them.
This late night shower thought brought to you by a conversation with a cishet male Uber driver who really needs to love himself more.
Mar 4, 2024
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Work on yourself. Figure out your own likes and dislikes. Date yourself with such vigor, as if you were dating a new lover. That coupled with time passing ought to work wonders.
Mar 15, 2024
This specific meal brought me back to life in the middle of the storm and made me forget my jeans and boots were soaked from the rain
Egg creams for life
Apr 4, 2024