“self-worth becomes a hostage to professional accolades and achievement”
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“Focusing on someone outside their career encourages a culture where people feel valued for who they are, not just what they do”
what are your thoughts?
i agree to a certain extent. it depends on the delivery of the question as well.
most of the time you can tell if someone is genuinely interested in who you are as a person. asking about somebody’s job can provide a lot of insight into a person’s interests and general character - i think it’s fine for your job to be an aspect of your identity.
i could also tangent into why capitalism may have an influence on why this question is asked so frequently..
i do find myself struggling with gauging the intentions behind this question sometimes; which often makes me less emotionally open and usually filters a potential friendship into a professional/transactional relationship immediately.
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been doing this more in my everyday life. respectfully ofc. some things i’ve received/am receiving recently from simply asking for it 🤭:
- free cocktail!
- free ride (i don’t drive)
- awesome music reccs
- pretty styling pieces for a potential future shoot :)
- the beginnings of a fun and crafty project
- beautiful bloomers
- new friends to hang with
grateful for the people who are so giving. makes me want to pay the deed forward. and i do.
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letting go of the past. letting go of unrealistic expectations. letting go of your ego. letting go of the wounds you still hold. release and create space in your heart and mind and soul to allow healing and love into ur lifeeee :)
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the perfect third place. love the fun chats afterwords. nobody is really left out of conversation bc we all just experienced the exact same thing in unison. just an exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas.
also a place that kinda forces you to completely sit and focus in on what’s in front of you. something i think most of us forget to make time for.. especially if you are someone like me, always on the move and maybe always a little distracted.
what movie will you be watching at the theatres next? maybe i‘ll watch it too and we can have a chat about it all on the virtual plain :)
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