Rec | DATING ETHICS

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Sooo… let’s get this 1 right u like someone, They like u back. u don’t think u have time. they don’t think it will work. Fuck it. Just love the person and see how it ends. You’re here to experience everything. So experience this love too.

@dearblue_

Feb 3, 2024

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