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body is a vessel who carries me through life.
i’m grateful for the body i live inside and she needs me to be responsible for her.
body positivity is difficult if ur looks oppose the standard of beauty in your region. and i've observed a tendency to ricochet into body negativity from there. Literally no - that is full trash - shame, hatred towards yourself is painful and inconvenient and lame?
so in body neutrality - thoughts become ‘what do i wear tonight to feel good? does this meal need to ground me or energize me?’ and suddenly life is more sensual because one is more embodied in every moment. there isn’t that outside - looking in at yourself to monitor your perfection or lacktheroef - vibe which keeps us out of our intuitions and impulses.
suddenly you are liberated and …it’s scary at first bc u have thrown away the point of comparison which you’ve measured life against?
if that makes sense?
idk
Feb 1, 2024
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does it make you sick to your stomach that you are flesh and bones and hair and a heart that is too young to understand the extent to which it feels?
does it make you sick to your belly that you are going to die one day, or do you savor it?
i think there’s novelty in mortality, and duh, no shit, you’re a 16 year old girl. of course you think there’s novelty in anything bordering on deviation. but the question is really, what isn’t a novelty?!
it’s defined as (🤓) the quality of being new, original, or unusual, and arguably everything is original unusual or new. you are new, you are not the woman you were twenty seconds ago deciding whether or not bath time was economic
today in my philosophy class, we, under the lens of Plato other Socratic philosophy, differentiated BEING versus BECOMING.
Being, being ( haha!!) the concepts rooted in an unchangeable context
Becoming, the tangible facets where in these concepts find their applications
FOOORR EXAMPLEE
beauty itself is BEING. while convention and subjectivity are aspects of beauty, they may only be expressed in beauty‘s application, therefore BECOMING instead.
my beautiful beautiful girlfriend is an example of such a thing. she is becoming, and she is beautiful in all sorts of convention and subjectivity , but the concept of beauty as it pertains to her beauty here is rather an expression of the concept rather than a way it is changed in its foundation
does that make sense to you?
THE POINT IS
nothing is new, rather created under the conceptual framework of such that is BEING. But, nothing ever exists for a moment more than it is supposed to, and to remind you dear reader I am not the woman i was at the start of this post. I am rushing, jumbled, and once again deciding whether or not bath time is economic. All is connected by what is BEING, but we take actions which create NEW UNUSUAL and ORIGINAL applications of these beings.
novelty, as a result, is both impossible to achieve and ignore
every girl deserves bath time i think
Feb 6, 2025
@mothersuperior post on latex and the yearndemic reminded me of this essay that I read a few years ago about the commodification and fetishization of the body and how it’s been paralleled with a lack of chemistry and sexuality that we used to see on screen. The title is your tldr: everyone is hot and no one is horny. The sterilization of sexuality and sex is everywhere, past even film. It’s a response to the acceleration of capitalism, war and colonial extraction of the earth. It has crept into the ways we view ourselves, our experience and our bodies.
One thing I took away from this essay is that to align yourself with traditional beauty standards will make you too tired to fuck. Similarly, the whole « working on yourself » grind that I heard on first dates all the time is this strange, individualistic perspective that makes you too exhausted and distracted for the holistic chemistry we desire. We flatten our lives to marketable lines that make us appear attractive - I’m working on myself, I’ve been going to therapy, I have a nice job and apartment. And while people are obviously horny, they don’t know for what - forming our bodies to be better, our minds fixed and correct, we can’t pinpoint what the purpose is cause we’re too fucking exhausted to investigate further than that. Love, desire, and chemistry feel more and more elusive.
For us to morph ourselves into the image of sexiness according to western beauty standards, there is sacrifice (nutrients, your current corporeal form, the ability to be perceived as more than an object, working long hours for your grind) that doesn’t align with sensuality (unless you’re into that). There is no room for the spectrum of sensations you body is capable of feeling. There is no room for desire when we’ve given it all up the capitalist war machine. :p
Mar 10, 2025
this quote from Jessica DeFino, beauty reporter and more importantly, critic, on the one person from her past that most influenced who she is today (and I really must agree):
"I am going to take the phrase “who you are today” very literally and go with Harry Dean Stanton — specifically, Harry Dean Stanton in conversation with David Lynch; that famous interaction where David Lynch says “How would you describe yourself?” and Harry Dean Stanton says, “As nothing. There is no self,” and they laugh.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of the self today for an article I’m writing on beauty as so-called “self-care” and “self-expression.” I bristle when people use these terms because in order for beauty products to be a tool for self-expression, you first must have a self to express, and I get the overwhelming sense that most people saying this don’t know who they are outside of what they buy and apply. Beauty products are more often used to create an image of a self than express an existing self. I don’t know. I’m taking a class on existentialism and Simone de Beauvoir, so that has something to do with it. But the more I think and read about the self, the more I’m convinced there is no essential self, not in any way that matters, and pursuing solidarity with the collective is a more interesting and liberating project than defining the self anyway? So yeah, today, specifically, I am luxuriating in the nothingness of being with Harry Dean Stanton (and Buddha before him)."
Mar 7, 2024
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for example - I find music theory very soothing - it’s only a hobby - i don’t intend on sharing my results with anyone - it’s like a puzzle for me - it is math - it is so fun to practice the shapes of the triads into my fingers - i love all the different ways these sounds can go together - i never lead with this as a conversation bc it’s only mine - i skip parties to study it - i stop scrolling bc i’m like - can i move my fingers faster in this pentatonic scale? - it’s literally so fun to have a secret hobby - nobody has to know
Oct 13, 2024
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the sky is a mirror
people aren’t a way because of a planet, things aren’t happening because of planets
astrology is a tool - planets are a mirror to what is happening on earth - in the same way one uses a mirror to pick spinach out of their teeth
there are many branches of astrology in the same way there are many kinds of engineering
it is not scientifically proven bc empowering ppl with a free tool (developed and utilized by cultures globally for 1000s of years lolz) would result in a huge economic loss for whoever funds the science tests.
literally Duh
if u vibe go further and if you do not vibe, stop being so angsty about it
Jan 31, 2024