My parents had it on a record. It was a sex-positive female belting "T*ts and *ss!" It was funny and sexy and silly and joyful and gave me a vision of female-hood that was totally problematic but also a good stepping stone away from conformity and shame and toward courage and self-love. I learned how to drop the needle on it when I was five. "How Will I Know" by Whitney Houston was next. When I was six my mom recorded it on VHS from MTV and I made up a dance to it that I showed to my cousin Judy, who was in her 20s, and laughed in a way that made me blush and decide to only do the dance for myself from now on. I have since broken that rule.
Jan 28, 2024
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Pretty sick, went with a friend and it was very funny. $14 Movie Theater IPAs were hitting in a fantastic way. Then we went to see the second half of the Knicks game in some dive in the Village. It was a great time, stumbled on the escalator in front of strangers.
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I have another indie theater that I prefer because it’s cozier, has better vibes, is much closer to me, and everybody who works there is genuinely passionate about film. It’s not really anything special visually but it’s a beautiful institution and it’s so fun to be there ❤️
But this one is an old art deco theatre designed by architect John Eberson (he designed Loew’s Paradise in the Bronx and the Paradise Theatre in Chicago)! It’s pretty run down/poorly managed and staffed but it’s a gorgeous building and definitely worth visiting. Not my photos but included for illustrative purposes!!
Nov 14, 2024
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This is (I think?) a form of meditation, but it's what I use to calm my mind, especially when I've woken up in the night and need to get back to sleep. I learned it from my favorite dance teacher who starts every class with this exercise. What you do is just tell yourself things, in sentence form, that are true about wherever you are right now. Majority of them should be sensory things. Like, "I feel my sweat pants on my leg." "I feel the heater blowing my hair." "I hear a car passing outside." "I see a gray sky." "I taste the apple pie I had for dessert." Just statements about what is true right now -- and this is the important part: WITHOUT COMMENTARY. Of course, because you have a human brain and this is what it is hard-wired to do, your will start supplying commentary anyway. So when that happens you just notice it, and absolutely don't judge it or anything, it's just another "fact of the moment" -- "that was commentary." You acknowledge the commentary and then go back to stating other (non-commentary) facts until the next bout of commentary, which you then acknowledge and move on from -- or until you fall asleep, which happens shockingly fast for me once I notice and move on from my first bout of commentary. Eventually you might feel like you've run out of facts so you can start saying the sentences over to yourself, with more space in them to take up more time, and somewhere in there, a sense of peace develops? A place where, just for a moment, thoughts get lulled into taking a break? I find that as soon as I notice that I'm in that peace, huge thoughts come FLOODING IN, and then I have to calmly and gently be like, "this is commentary. back to the facts." It's refreshing and it takes a very passive form of discipline, like, you should be as relaxed as possible -- lying on the floor or on a couch, not holding a single part of your body up, maybe eyes closed, total release, but not *total* because the thoughts do need to be guided -- not controlled, not judged, not even stopped. Just guided, like re-routing a little rivulet of water that's rolling down a hill.
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Jan 31, 2024
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For feel in the hand my favorite one is TÜL that I can only ever find at Office Depot. For ease of clicking the lead up and the best eraser I love the Clear Point Elite by Paper Mate. I'm a 0.7mm fan for lead, not so skinny that it breaks under my ferocious pressure but still thin enough to write pretty small notes in the margin.
I've been lost for pens for many years. I yearn to find a good one and have actually put up an ask here myself on the topic. I'll be following this thread.
For notebooks the common denominator I'll be fine with is Moleskine. Don't love it but it won't ruin my life. I sample around like crazy and 90% of what I get drives me up the wall, luckily I write every day and go through them like tissue so I'm not stuck for too long before I get to sample anew. My absolute FAVORITE notebook was from an Italian company called Impresso on Etsy -- GOD I LOVED THOSE NOTEBOOKS -- I was gifted one and bought the second. Alas they are really thick, impractical for tossing in a bag with computer, dance stuff, change of clothes, just too bulky to be a constant companion. I never even thought to check if they make slimmer notebooks until now. ON IT
Feb 12, 2024