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When the only person that matters to you’s 29 year old ex-coworker says that you are “a lot”, you may realize that you aren’t as palatable as you thought.
I always thought I was extremely likeable. I mean maybe not extremely but I always thought I have a good first impression. And maybe I am intense, maybe I shouldn’t of told the waiter that one of the oysters tasted like “dirty pussy” or I shouldn’t of asked him what type of porn he watches. But, that’s me. And I can’t change it.
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i often find myself wanting to be universally liked before i remember that actually, not only are there certain kinds of people that i don’t care about the opinions of, there are certain kinds of people who i actually *want* to dislike and resent me and i would be deeply uncomfortable being admired by.
when you’re expressing a part of yourself that you’re afraid might make people dislike you, consider: what is the sort of person who would dislike me because of this? would i want to associate with that kind of person? very occasionally the answer might be yes, but often you’ll find that as soon as you concretely imagine the sort of person who is alienated by you (or unconventional trait X), you will find that it’s the sort of person you don’t want to associate with anyways!
“be yourself” is not just good advice because it’s personally comforting - it’s also good advice because being yourself is a good way to filter out people from your life who aren’t ready for what you’re bringing to the table. stop thinking “do they wanna hang out with me” and start thinking “do i wanna hang out with them”
Oct 10, 2024
My favorite thing in getting to know new people is finding out the things they enjoy that seem a bit out of character. I think it’s comforting and a bit sexy when not everything that they like has to be “cool” for them to really enjoy it. Being self-assured and knowing your worth is hot.
After all, life is too short to try and shape yourself around a mould that doesn’t truly resonate with you. Just enjoy the things that bring you joy without caring if they are basic or lame to others. you can enjoy the band that everyone hates, enjoy the movies that people think are overrated, and wear the shirt that went out of style 5 years ago.
true authenticity is a rare trait, always has been. It’s like striking gold when you find that inner peace to just be yourself, regardless of how cringy others find it. Find the peace to like what you like without shame.
Feb 20, 2025
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A lot of the time people want to please everyone. This makes you fear stepping out of your comfort zone and say what you actually want to say. Instead, open yourself up to the fact that some people just WILL NOT like you whether its justified or not.
Talk to people!!! say what you think and ask questions
Apr 12, 2024
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Not to feign poverty, or as the less articulate call it “cosplaying poor“, but why would I spend 30 dollars on a entree im gonna pick at when I can scarf a grilled cheese on the corner of Roebling and Broadway.
Just got my resy notification. Facing the idea that I will have to eat something in order to not appear like an admirer of Cassie from ‘Skins’. Especially because he’s seen me puke my gin martini on myself at Clandestino because I didn’t eat dinner. Feeling disgusting and glutenous already.
Need a cocktail.
Jan 24, 2024