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As New Yorkers (and self proclaimed bushwickers lol) we tend to lean into a scene. From the hardcore face tatted scene, the techno dolls, fashion gays, all the way to whatever the Pianos crowd is, we never stray away from the normal 3-4 friends we made years ago when we came here for art school. By we...I mean you, but as your friendly Native New Yorker I suggest you do what the girls call a "Solo Pump" and step out of your norm.
You put on an outfit thats only purpose is to make YOURSELF feel sexy, then you plan a club hope either in Bushwick, China Town, Greenpoint, Willamsburg 🤢, East Village, or if your thirsty for yerba Mattes, Ridgewood Queens. The purpose of this is to open yourself to the many lives you could be living in your time in NYC!
My "Solo Pumps" have not only given me some of the best smoke break conversations, but i've made friends with folk I'd never thought I'd share a life with. Solo cig huffs on a dark dance room floor can sometimes be more tranquilizing than all the K ya'll steal from the Derbys (seriously shout out to all the anxious Horses out there with no resources smh). As a New Yorker my favorite thing is meeting new people, you pick up new music, trendys, vape flavors, and you might even find access to the world beyond the L train line.
Next time you find yourself bored, borderline suicidal, at home consider taking yourself on a solo pump. A date night with yourself, a selfish spiral, and work on expanding your OWN independent life here in NYC. You'll be surprised with who or what you bump into, when youre not focused on getting all 6 of your friends in a Lyft at 4am.
Anyways, going to use this as a vague Bushwick Gossip Girl type of writing. Except I'm not writing about people social lives, I work as a bartender I see your lives its not worth blogging about lmao.
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Vice
Dec 20, 2023
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As someone who’s moved to 5 different cities as an adult, go out and do things that sounds cool! A few tips that have steadied me in NYC and other moves:
- the friends you know already have their lives in place. It doesn’t mean they don’t want to hang, it just means they shouldn’t be your life line to events and socialization
- if you work a computer job, volunteer! NYC has so many cool volunteer opportunities. HousingWorks Bookstore and Cafe is mostly run by volunteers. You’ll meet people with similar interests and have a shared obligation. Ever felt like it’s hard to make friends outside work/school? Volunteering is a great hack for adults
- have a hobby you can do in public - even if it’s just reading a book. similar to my rec on how to go to bars alone, it’s going to help you feel like you belong in a space rather than waiting for things to come to you
- set a budget. the housing market sucks, you may spend half your pay check on rent. Know what you want to spend that fun money on and those budget lines you’re trying to hold tight
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i love going places with my friends, but sometimes you just gotta do it by yourself. make new friends. read a book. live a little! you wont know until you try
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concert? play? Reading? niche movie screening? Rave? Restaurant you want to try? whatever it is, try to wrangle friends if its up their alley (not a pro-antisocial message here) but if it does not work out, take urself! literally worst case scenario absolutely no one gives a fuck best case you make new circumstantial friends. Every one is busy making money and chasing what inspires them to stay here so schedules align once in a blue moon, don’t let that stop you from discovering / enjoying shit.
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