It's simple as riding a bike (after first failed attempts), but you got to do it regularly, if you stop you might fall easy in that obnoxious spiral of guilt where you feel like .... you don't fit in, you just don't belong - that's not right. You don't know that for sure. You got to keep trying to go that film nite, that local bands roaster gig, that DIY grassroots-boost event, that book club, that poetry open mic, that comedy show, that open call set (??) - I mean just go with the flow until your social battery runs low and you got to U-turn to your 'bat cave'. Your presence can change somebody's vibes when you walk in and give it a chance. In LDN is extremely challenging, NYC I guess is quite chill and buzzy at the same time, but hey, yolo at the end.
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concert? play? Reading? niche movie screening? Rave? Restaurant you want to try? whatever it is, try to wrangle friends if its up their alley (not a pro-antisocial message here) but if it does not work out, take urself! literally worst case scenario absolutely no one gives a fuck best case you make new circumstantial friends. Every one is busy making money and chasing what inspires them to stay here so schedules align once in a blue moon, don’t let that stop you from discovering / enjoying shit.
Feb 21, 2024
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u gotta just show up at the same places consistently. if someone sees u at a place long enough they'll either end up talking to u or u'll talk to them by virtue of just occupying the space. this can apply to almost anything so like the gym, dance classes, art studios, cafes, bars, clubs, book clubs, town hall meetings, etc
personally, ive been going to the same rock climbing gym and even though i suck at it (and im really really bad at it) ive met a couple of rlly cool ppl from there. but yeah its much easier said than done, bc life can get in the way of that consistency. but if u rlly try at it i think u can meet some cool folks.
Mar 16, 2024
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It gets harder to meet new people as you get older, especially if you aren’t in a super social work environment. The dating apps can sometimes hit but the amount of effort it takes can be exhausting, so I’d say have it as just one part of a collection of things you’re doing to make connections.
Finding a community of people who are also into the same creative endeavor has always gotten consistent results for me. I saw you’re into making zines, so participating in a zine fair could be fun. You could also check out the 8-Ball Community which has a publishing initiative — I think they‘re pretty welcoming if you’re looking to volunteer / get involved.
But yeah, showing up semi-regularly to the same places and becoming familiar is a key. I moved to Portland Oregon for a year back in 2009 and didn’t know a single person which was super hard. I ended up just hanging out at this parking lot with a bunch of food trucks and got to talking with some of the other kids that hung out and worked there. Eventually I got invited out to some of their parties and by the end of the year was part of their crew. Took a while tho!
Also, it tends to start with just one friend. And if that person accepts you, then everyone else they’re friends with will too. And then you can hang with the other people and keep branching out. It’s a practice, one that develops over a lifetime.
Mar 18, 2024
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Just navigating for a moment my home/feed/timeline and I realized.... everything smeels like MySpace. Exciting fresh summer fruit air.
Was too young to even comprehend what was going on during the beginning of early 2000s (like most of u) and the only time I felt 'k00l' enough was when a random day on 2008 I signed up for Facebook, Youtube and Twitter. None of them were interesting enough to do much, except for posting pics/videos and write nonsense status about what was up in your baby-head.
At that point Myspace was long gone, buried in the silent internet black hole where you would just find all your """deleted""" embarassing moments and some uncrypted FBI cold cases files.
Now, in this post- T u m b l r and edulcorated saturation of Instagram & TikTok and commersalisation of 'being visually communicative', where can we find... our tribe, our forum, our sense of community 4real 4real > > > > this seems 2 b the place, or at leat A place to start. Just reading through all the recs I can see how everything reaches like-minded art-makers and tasters, without being too 'scene-keepers'.
This sounds like a homage, another type of ode, but it is coming from the depth of my heart, still seeking meaning between those digital coded lines, you know?!
Hopefully I am not wrong and I can meet up with many of you somewhere - NYC, LDN, anywhere our brainy music-geeks soul will bring us <3333
Feels like this is the beginning of a new chapter of my online presence, a post-adolescence virtual rebirth.
6d ago
There's nothing more vital than a song which transports you immediately to a place in time that did not even exist but you feel nostalgic about. That dream of youth,
of living everyday like a summer nite -
with your friends just hanging around
feeling the breeze down your spine
or f*ck it even on your own,
roller skating in an empty driveway.
All your past mistakes or bad decisions that led where you are right now seems vanished while you just swinging on the notes of his singing sadly, smoothly, sweetly words like: 'Tell me, whats wrong?'
5d ago
This is just a snippet, a draft, a screenshot of a frame of what I am working on. Yeeeeaaah I should shake my bump on that juicy beat while in a UGG's PR event showing off their 'new sound system' x new pair of sandals, but hey I got inspired by the workshop I attended on being (finally) another struggling no-label artist/DJ and this CREATIVE FORCE came over me...inside of me, within my limbs. To Promote My Own Thing. Here.
A Pre-Party Only 4 U (Perfectly Imperfect Crew).
May 16, 2025