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Jul 19, 2025
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⭐Try talking to someone without “oh yeah, when something similar happened to me…” or “that reminds me of [me story]” Or “I totally understand because I…” - It’s hard, but worth trying
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⭐it is genuinely incredible what people will tell you if you just sit there quietly and don't pipe up all the time
Feb 8, 2024
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🗝one of the biggest shocks about growing up was discovering that motherfuckers cannot read minds. I am still shaken up about this.
but what mf can do is learn about you. Communication can and does go beyond just the verbal corrections. It can be body language, the tightness of shoulders or sudden lack of eye contact. its tricky tho, to just go from physical cues alone. a picture paints a thousand words is not actually true, unless the artist explains their point.
For me, when I’m triggered and tensed up — my body is painting the picture of rejection for the other. They might think im angry, or that they did something wrong. But the words i need to hear are ‘you’re safe, of course you feel that way’ instead of ‘what‘s wrong with you’
for me, ive communicated that I like when others pry a bit for my emotions. I’m such an explosion of colours, the observer needs to decipher the blues in a way that makes me feel they care. Which is by asking. I’m not asking them to know what the hell im painting, the brush strokes of my experience, but it goes a long way to talk about it. Even if it just means leaning into the observer and saying ‘could you please get me some water… I’m running dry… ‘
but what mf can do is learn about you. Communication can and does go beyond just the verbal corrections. It can be body language, the tightness of shoulders or sudden lack of eye contact. its tricky tho, to just go from physical cues alone. a picture paints a thousand words is not actually true, unless the artist explains their point.
For me, when I’m triggered and tensed up — my body is painting the picture of rejection for the other. They might think im angry, or that they did something wrong. But the words i need to hear are ‘you’re safe, of course you feel that way’ instead of ‘what‘s wrong with you’
for me, ive communicated that I like when others pry a bit for my emotions. I’m such an explosion of colours, the observer needs to decipher the blues in a way that makes me feel they care. Which is by asking. I’m not asking them to know what the hell im painting, the brush strokes of my experience, but it goes a long way to talk about it. Even if it just means leaning into the observer and saying ‘could you please get me some water… I’m running dry… ‘
Dec 7, 2024
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we drank cappuccinos and hot chocolate;
it was raining outside and afterwards, the three of us shared the last cigarette from the pack;
A left the lighter at the tram stop
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⭐sitting in the park, on a bench that's half light, half shade;
later, walking very slowly through the park, just looking around;
honorable mentions from today: a little kid whose face was completely covered in chocolate icecream, a man in a nice linen shirt, two dogs that looked exactly the same(although one was smaller, the other one larger, they looked like a big and a mini version of eachother), a tree with leaves that reminded us of stars(Liquidambar styraciflua or sweetgum tree) and a crow that was trying to bury a grey BIC lighter it found