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only come if it’s intentionally + aware !

here’s my misc thoughts lol i’m no expert but this is from my POV as someone who’s lived here full time a bit and grew up visiting all the time. firstly, you’re def right that it is expensive — nearly impossible to relocate to if you don’t have a job secured and aren’t rich. even moreso if you have never visited or have only done one super tourist-y visit--it’s not just Times Square and Statue of Liberty (love her tho) rainbows and butterflies vibes lol. like i seriously do not recommend moving here if you haven’t been to other boroughs, and neighborhoods outside of Midtown, SoHo, FiDi, UES etc. i’ve never been to england so can’t speak to it bit you might find it helpful to look online for comparisons to cities you’ve spent more time in - london and other cities in europe perhaps. consider if NYC would be that much more exciting or “better” for you? also there’s a huge issue of influencers and people who wanna live here impulsively for fun that has driven up rent and driven out lifetime residents, esp working class folks and people of color. (lots of writing out there on the difference between moving to any city vs gentrifying one, and what one can do to not be complicit in the latter). and, my family is from here and i have always loved the city; i did get a job here after graduation but i really wouldn’t have moved here if i hadn’t. so definitely come here intentionally, and arrive with a willingness to engage with your community! sometimes new residents who aren’t as acquainted with the “real” new york and can’t afford apts in the more gentrified or historically wealthy areas (most of manhattan, some parts of brooklyn) have a misconception of the city, so they end up feeling awkward or “unsafe” where they live, and thus don’t give back to their neighborhood. it’s veryyy weird that some people move here only to go to work, eat out and party on the weekends. (not saying this is you ofc! but just a general note). the irony is that NYers get a bad rep for the mind your own business culture and realness--and yeah NYers aren’t “nice”, but people are kind. folks care about and actively help out their neighbors. i saw this in my own fam growing up! and as sinatra himself once said: “if i can make it here, i’ll make it anywhere.” it is a tough place to “make it” for people without roots. but i’d never deny that new york, for many of us, lives up to its reputation as the so-called greatest city in the world ;)

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knowing a city

I completely understand where everything on the list of cons is coming from but none of it is entirely true. New York is $$$ and yet millions of people find away to make it sort of work. (consider community resources, free events, no spend days.) New York is loud and yet there are quiet parks, and nearly silent neighborhoods (like my old haunt in Bay Ridge where I almost went crazy from the silence and listening to the waves every day.) New York is smelly & yet, there’s fresh air by the sea, over the rivers, on secluded streets (& many more good smells like bakeries, and laundry, the sea–again!–, and dusty stores, and the bleach smell of nearly cleaned sidewalks) & you don’t have to be young to live here. Most people aren’t. (The old people are the best.) No matter where you go, if you only look for the negative you will find it. But in a city this big you will find the exceptions are the norm.

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It sucks here but yeah

I am from this city and I can tell you it is terrible! and yet: •You can see some of the best art in the world, and really enmesh yourself in a cultural scene, if that is your jam •You can get most things that there are to get (but they are expensive) •You can live with your friends in an apartment that is falling apart for not a crazy amount of money, if you hunt for the right place •The pizza here is better than everywhere else in the world and I am not kidding I used to cry thinking about it when I lived in Maryland for a while •Yes it is dirty and smelly but ? so are we all •For all its woes, New York does have a really good sense of community if you can be open to it •Pigeons are nice

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Support your local everything

Log off Amazon prime and step into the real world. Go to a local physical store in your community. Look your neighbor in the eye and put money in their hand.
Go to a local venue and hear what musicians in your community are creating. Talk to them about it afterwards. Buy a T-shirt or cd or whatever they’re selling, they’ll make more money from that than from thousands of streams. Seriously, Spotify pays a fraction of a penny per stream.
Forget about Starbucks. Check out a local coffee shop instead. Learn your barista’s name and tip them.
Go to your local book store and library. Look around and see what book covers catch your eye. Ask employees for recommendations instead of just reading whatever’s trending on #booktok. 
Go to your local museums, farmers market, theaters, restaurants, whatever your community has going on.
When you go local, you see your community in a new way. You make friends and feel more connected to the people around you.
You will discover new things organically instead of relying on an algorithm. You keep your money circulating in your community instead of making billionaires richer. You will have a greater appreciation for where you live.
P.S. Pay In Cash 

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