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It can be a total downer, and I assume ai makes it ten times worse, so use the app for fun and if you meet someone that’s a bonus. Be yourself, for sure! Don’t try to tell someone what they want to hear, just tell the truth and if they run that’s a good thing.
Jul 4, 2025
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♥️use it as an opportunity to meet new people, make friends, basically behave naturally and don’t create some type of fake persona to impress another person
if there is a spark than go for it, but it is not that serious, just become friends with them lol
if there is a spark than go for it, but it is not that serious, just become friends with them lol
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🤷Dating apps are the easiest way to meet people nowadays.
I have had some of the worst experiences ever in my life by meeting up with someone on a dating app, but also my current partner and I met on tinder and we have been together for a year and a half now.
What I’ve learned is be completely transparent with your intentions, learn to spot the red flags that someone is lying about their intentions, and be comfortable with something not working out even if there was some chemistry over text.
If you have brought it up with your therapist multiple times, it sounds like you need to just pull the trigger, and figure out definitively if it is for you. You can get 100,000 responses saying “go for it!” but only you know what actually works for you.
Feb 26, 2025
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💋Reading through these answers is brutal but here’s my interpretation of dating apps:
the longest seriously relationship I have ever been and still am in is from a dating app. they are not engineered to be built for short term use because they lose their value fast if people end up in successful relationships as a result. They’re not designed as a means to an end. they are a time and sometimes money suck and can hollow out the social interactions
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They are the most easily accessible option and if you choose to explore that path, being as intentional as possible when curating your profile is important. Sounds sleazy but these apps encourage people to develop a personal brand or become product like, you have to “sell” yourself to demonstrate that you are a good fit for partnership. There’s probably good people out there who are well intentioned who want to find someone
I would advise (if you do it) to be specific about what you are looking for, what you like to do for fun, hobbies, and the right people will come if you have shared values. Or just have a profile with a profile pic and no bio and talk your way into things like I did
avoid: laundry lists of what turns you on/off, anything that feels inauthentic, such things
the longest seriously relationship I have ever been and still am in is from a dating app. they are not engineered to be built for short term use because they lose their value fast if people end up in successful relationships as a result. They’re not designed as a means to an end. they are a time and sometimes money suck and can hollow out the social interactions
However
They are the most easily accessible option and if you choose to explore that path, being as intentional as possible when curating your profile is important. Sounds sleazy but these apps encourage people to develop a personal brand or become product like, you have to “sell” yourself to demonstrate that you are a good fit for partnership. There’s probably good people out there who are well intentioned who want to find someone
I would advise (if you do it) to be specific about what you are looking for, what you like to do for fun, hobbies, and the right people will come if you have shared values. Or just have a profile with a profile pic and no bio and talk your way into things like I did
avoid: laundry lists of what turns you on/off, anything that feels inauthentic, such things
Apr 12, 2024
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I’m not sure why, I guess things ending are sad. Here’s a self portrait I made in charcoal. The proportions are wonky but it kinda looks like me!
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The occupation persists, the oppression persists, the torture persists.
The occupiers are psychotic and their work is never finished. People who’ve paid attention won’t be surprised by this photo from Gaza.
The occupiers are psychotic and their work is never finished. People who’ve paid attention won’t be surprised by this photo from Gaza.
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🤪I’m 50, I say because that makes me unusual in this context. I paid [redacted] for a ticket to the Eras Tour after listening to tswift for 3 weeks, and it was worth it. In second grade my teacher gave kids birthday spankings over her knee, and in sixth grade my teacher told my mom I hadn’t blossomed yet. I’m a good friend, mostly to people on the internet. I’m good at conversing with strangers. I’m usually the oldest person at the show but don’t feel like it. I’m good at being helpful. I’m sarcastic and funny and make myself laugh. I’m a good graphic designer and a conscientious driver. I’m a good photographer and I can successfully follow recipes. I don’t use my Peloton enough. I did a lot of caregiving for my mom for several years, and we enjoyed spending time together even if it was mostly in waiting rooms and my car. The fastest I ever ran a mile was eight minutes and six seconds. I drove the same car for 20 years and then replaced it with another one. I enjoy tipping, giving money to people on the street and Disneyland. I am a fan of baseball, Formula 1 racing and the Criterion Channel. I solve about 80% of New York Times crosswords. I take Prozac and Wellbutrin, and take Trazodone to sleep through the night. I wish I had a glassed in solarium so I could sleep in it on rainy nights. I would like to have a pet cat and a garage. I could happily live eating only cereal and fruit. I overshare on the internet and undershare elsewhere. ✌️💛