Rec | FINDING COMMUNITY AS A FORMER WEIRD KID

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I grew up outcasted, and it seems the people who also grew up that way have found their community. What am I doing differently? Are they not as content as I perceive them to be, or have they actually figured out how to not be paralyzed by social anxiety 🤔🤔🤔

@heartshapedpond

Jul 2, 2025

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@wakeuplmd

Speaking as a former weird kid who then grew into a popular loner who then grew into a content and confident adult, the biggest thing I saw in confident people that I looked up to: they really didn’t give any fuck about what people thought about them. They just did what they wanted, what made them happy, regardless of what anyone else thought.

Jul 2, 2025

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And I really do mean any kind of community, as long as it’s a group where you feel supported. I was raised without religion, largely, but I decided to start going to a church near me in March. I was feeling lost and lonely and I figured it was worth a shot. Everyone has been so, so welcoming and kind. I even got baptized last Sunday. It’s been fulfilling feeling like I’m part of something bigger than just myself, like I’m part of a larger group that I can belong to. I don’t think it has to be a religious organization, I think you can find meaningful human connection anywhere - You just have to step outside your door and go looking for it. Find a local library to hang around, small music events, anywhere where there’s people like you!

@dejaentendu

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almost 2 years ago i sublet an apartment from a loose mutual who was traveling for 6 weeks. i knew his community was pretty tight knit, all the neighbors knew each other and had established relationships and would potluck together on a regular basis. i am an og room kid ™️ and was really intimidated about living in such close proximity/community to other people. what if i didn’t make friends?? what if i DID make friends?? both were scary prospects to me. but at the time a major goal for me was to stop thinking of myself as such a loner and to invest more in the skills and attitudes that build a sense of trust in community. it was one of the best decisions i’ve made in adulthood and led me to some of my closest friends, a more permanent housing situation next door to the original sublet, as well as some real challenges that are helping me grow as a person. the initial risk put me way outside my comfort zone and as a result i’m now more comfortable in more zones!

@trappedinabody

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saw this at library n I thought it was very pi coded. if you’re feeling lonely and isolated in the neighborhood around you, or just see potential that isn’t being utilized, I think this is such an amazing way to put thought into action!!!!!!!
functional adult community building has mostly devolved into facebook groups and I’m glad if that brings ppl together in some ways —— but what if we didn’t need zuck and found each other and made each others lives richer…….