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there’s a thought “experiment“ i like to think of a lot.
if i am raised in an abusive household, when i have my own children, there are two options, two “ways” i can go about it.
i can raise them the same, blame myself as a victim of circumstance with no other knowledge of what it means to truly raise a kid
or i can otherwise raise my children with only their benefit in mind, qualify my pain as the possible outcome and “rectify“ the cycle of abuse that so greatly impacted me.
these are guided by the same variable, but the outcomes are radically, conversely different. so why? if we can’t map out how x affects y, ( because x can = a and b) then how can we understand it? it’s a solid point, and an extension of nature versus nurture. the “experiment“ implies that we are guided by both, that there is no objective answer to what guides our actions. some may be ruled by nurture and others nature, and to ignore the massive black hole of what human nature is- then perhaps nature is always positive.
going back to the experiment, we can all pretty unanimously say child abuse is bad. anything that allows us to have option A (bad) and option B (good) is usually precipitated by a bad thing. if the bad option is always an example of monkey see; monkey do, then nurture is what will taint the undiminished human spirit and guide misdirection
let me be true and honest, though this post is ignorant of a lot of things, and makes some really big assumptions we cannot be positive all which provides 2 stark contrasts in the terms of options is in fact determined by an objectively bad beginning. we do not take into account we can do objectively bad things by nature nor how the bad thing was originally nurtured.
i think the real, more philosophical point is that anything can go any way. the choices you make have choices that root from them, and we are all dynamically creating some cycle whether it be one of love and adoration or malice and hate
so…don’t hit your kids?
if i am raised in an abusive household, when i have my own children, there are two options, two “ways” i can go about it.
i can raise them the same, blame myself as a victim of circumstance with no other knowledge of what it means to truly raise a kid
or i can otherwise raise my children with only their benefit in mind, qualify my pain as the possible outcome and “rectify“ the cycle of abuse that so greatly impacted me.
these are guided by the same variable, but the outcomes are radically, conversely different. so why? if we can’t map out how x affects y, ( because x can = a and b) then how can we understand it? it’s a solid point, and an extension of nature versus nurture. the “experiment“ implies that we are guided by both, that there is no objective answer to what guides our actions. some may be ruled by nurture and others nature, and to ignore the massive black hole of what human nature is- then perhaps nature is always positive.
going back to the experiment, we can all pretty unanimously say child abuse is bad. anything that allows us to have option A (bad) and option B (good) is usually precipitated by a bad thing. if the bad option is always an example of monkey see; monkey do, then nurture is what will taint the undiminished human spirit and guide misdirection
let me be true and honest, though this post is ignorant of a lot of things, and makes some really big assumptions we cannot be positive all which provides 2 stark contrasts in the terms of options is in fact determined by an objectively bad beginning. we do not take into account we can do objectively bad things by nature nor how the bad thing was originally nurtured.
i think the real, more philosophical point is that anything can go any way. the choices you make have choices that root from them, and we are all dynamically creating some cycle whether it be one of love and adoration or malice and hate
so…don’t hit your kids?
Jun 30, 2025
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🌎I am lucky to have had the circumstances in my life that has led me to question authority, not take things at face value, and to focus on building community to combat feelings of hopelessness. This has been long and arduous and only possible because I didn't have to deal with other resources in my life being scarce.
Scarcity creates a survival-mode and flight/fight/freeze/fawn are the ways people live within that mode. It is near impossible to think philosophically or critically when you are being provided scarcity.
I think there is some amount of innate desire of humans to be taken care of right? In an animalistic way. The unnatural and inhumane use of capitalism has for so many people created a gap within that desire of being taken care of and actually being taken care of.
I believe that the combination of this survival mode/fight-flight-etc. and the chasm that many people feel of that intense unmet desire to be taken care of has led to the situation that we find ourselves in today. These people were not born to be these fearful, distrustful, paranoid, cagey people. They were babies who needed to be taken care of. They were babies and children who, through circumstances outside of their control, were not taken care of. Yes, as adults they "should" be able to make better decisions and how one grows up "shouldn't" dictate what they do to others. But that's an easy thing to say when you have those resources and have *no idea* what it feels like to have not had them. This is pretty much a mixture of the other responses, because compassion and knowing that people are hurting is basically what makes me not mad at them. I get frustrated and I wish the circumstances were different, and I will defend myself or others if need be from violent behavior, but I do not hate these people. I am mad at the selfishness that has been able to be bred in this society through hundreds of years.
Scarcity creates a survival-mode and flight/fight/freeze/fawn are the ways people live within that mode. It is near impossible to think philosophically or critically when you are being provided scarcity.
I think there is some amount of innate desire of humans to be taken care of right? In an animalistic way. The unnatural and inhumane use of capitalism has for so many people created a gap within that desire of being taken care of and actually being taken care of.
I believe that the combination of this survival mode/fight-flight-etc. and the chasm that many people feel of that intense unmet desire to be taken care of has led to the situation that we find ourselves in today. These people were not born to be these fearful, distrustful, paranoid, cagey people. They were babies who needed to be taken care of. They were babies and children who, through circumstances outside of their control, were not taken care of. Yes, as adults they "should" be able to make better decisions and how one grows up "shouldn't" dictate what they do to others. But that's an easy thing to say when you have those resources and have *no idea* what it feels like to have not had them. This is pretty much a mixture of the other responses, because compassion and knowing that people are hurting is basically what makes me not mad at them. I get frustrated and I wish the circumstances were different, and I will defend myself or others if need be from violent behavior, but I do not hate these people. I am mad at the selfishness that has been able to be bred in this society through hundreds of years.
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💭Remember that, smart alecks!
Some more of my core guiding principles around this idea:
Truth and fact are two sides of the same coin.
They are interconnected but not interchangeable.
On a similar note:
Truth is complex and often paradoxical.
If you think you can lay it out in black and white terms, sorry bud – you don’t have a handle on it. The capacity to hold space for seemingly conflicting ideas is essential. That means letting go of the idea that your truth is the truth.
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🫂I think the things that make a person good are 1.being considerate and 2.being respectful. I think that genuinely caring about the wellbeing of others and respecting them is the recipe for a good human being.
I also think curiosity about others can make for a really great and understanding person. Someone with a desire to positively connect and listen to others is someone open to gaining perspective.
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I think I need to give this all more thought but for now this is how I feel about it!
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than I do in an entire day, but if I wake at 6:59 AM and turn to you to trace the outline of your lips with mine, I will have done enough and killed no one in the process.
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1) pump black country new road
2) watch brooklyn 99.
i miss being passionate about things, not being able to sleep, eat, speak, or fathom anything beyond the apple of my eye and the fruit of my thoughts.
i miss waking up with one thing in mind, how i would explore it that day, and how i would explore it the next
it’s been people it’s been sewing guitar driving religion philosophy photography writing filming blogging
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and i am bored. i feel this lack of passion so deeply in my body, its been a catalyst for the recent crashouts ive had ( and there’s been plenty) i don’t know how to stay, and work hard, and allow myself to grow to what i want to be right in this instance. not to shine my own shoes, but i’m not super used to being bad at things. i’ve always always always coasted, and now that im trying to be a gaf (give a fuck) filled girl, ive realized, sucking at something hurts a lot more when you’ve put in the work to be good at it.
if it wasn’t me writing this, and my best friend called me and told me this word for word, i would tell her how normal that feeling was, and that she herself knew what to do; commit. and that is my advice, dear sweet amalia, commit, commit, commit.
i miss being passionate about things, not being able to sleep, eat, speak, or fathom anything beyond the apple of my eye and the fruit of my thoughts.
i miss waking up with one thing in mind, how i would explore it that day, and how i would explore it the next
it’s been people it’s been sewing guitar driving religion philosophy photography writing filming blogging
i think, regardless of any tik tok data explosion with the intention of ripping out each of my brain cells to keep me submissive and docile because of a wrecked attention span, i’m not a girl of her commitments- i get bored.
and i am bored. i feel this lack of passion so deeply in my body, its been a catalyst for the recent crashouts ive had ( and there’s been plenty) i don’t know how to stay, and work hard, and allow myself to grow to what i want to be right in this instance. not to shine my own shoes, but i’m not super used to being bad at things. i’ve always always always coasted, and now that im trying to be a gaf (give a fuck) filled girl, ive realized, sucking at something hurts a lot more when you’ve put in the work to be good at it.
if it wasn’t me writing this, and my best friend called me and told me this word for word, i would tell her how normal that feeling was, and that she herself knew what to do; commit. and that is my advice, dear sweet amalia, commit, commit, commit.