an eye opening read that made me accept that sometimes being ordinary is okay.
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brenĂŠ brown. i found it helpful for living with more ease in my day to day. and putting work behind things that actually make me feel better about my self and existence.
May 8, 2024
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Cute & pithy subversion of âwherever you go, there you areâ, the mantra that basically ruled my life for three years. Gave me recognition of agency that I sorely needed when surrendering myself to my circumstances and making peace with everything just wasnât cutting it.
Happens to be the title of a short essay from All Things Are Too Small by Becca Rothfeld, an essay collection that turned me upside down, held me by the ankle, and shook me until a whole bunch of unquestioned Goods fell right out of my worldview, including (the subject of this essay!!) western meditation and the self control in pursuit of indifference that is its ultimate stated aim.
This essay in particular I think goes on for a little too long but hey!! Excess and indulgence in all things sex and love and thought and beauty and worldly items - each are handled completely separately and thoughtfully and wittily and I canât blame her for making the words and passages themselves as lush and voluminous as their subjects reportedly ought to be. If you read it (I hope you do!!!) itâll change the way and depth in which you think about Something and it wonât even be the thing you expect
Aug 8, 2024
This one changed me, blending well with my Absurdist and Buddhist beliefs.
The thesis of Beckerâs book is that human civilization is rooted in our internal defenses against the inevitability of death. We struggle to accept our impermanence and thus devise âimmortality projectsâ that we hope outlive us. If we must die, we hope to be remembered via some kind of legacy that will live on symbolically. These projects could be grounded in oneâs work, family, or religion.
We seek symbolic illusions that assuage our death anxiety, or we drown ourselves with triviality and hedonism. Either way, our survival instinct makes it difficult for us to face the certainty of death and the uncertainty of life.
While the topic is heavy, shining a light on the terror of death, it also helps me feel lighter. It reminds of how many of the things that feel so urgent in life are really just distractions. Everything we do is beautifully temporary. Life is building sandcastles on the beach. And while it can be beautiful and meaningful for us to create and collaborate, there is a lightness to the understanding that everything we ever do or make will one day be nullified by our ultimate annihilation.
So, in other words, donât take yourself too seriously.
Dec 9, 2024
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married by 25, house by 28, kids by 30, business by 32. who cares. youre not a child anymore. you donât have to hit milestones. thatâs the whole thing about being an adult, you donât have to give yourself age deadlines. let serendipity do its thing. what is for you will find you.
your journey is YOUR JOURNEY. how boring would life be if we were all setting the same goals and standards for each other? just keep moving forward. keep doing what YOU believe is best for YOU. keep growing, keep learning. time is going to pass regardless. but donât ever let someone or society push their timeline onto you.
May 28, 2025
help i cannot stop listening to this british princess!
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take some time to get rid of your digital junk pile. organize your files and folders. it's super satisfying and future you will thank you (until you have to do it again in 6 months)
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