I play skyrim (hearthfire expansion>>>) like i play stardew valley, i do cutesy little side quests for the benefit of the community, i have my little homestead and i want to get married and adopt children and i take no notice of the civil war playing out around me...
on the other hand i have modded the sims to almost unplayability (i have a broken extreme violence mod) and try to play that as close to gta as possible
