i've been seeing piffies posting about, and I myself, have experienced The Yearn.
i've sat with my feelings about relationships through many seasons. i was with someone for 10 yrs, we got engaged, i broke it off. although he was an incredible person, he was not my soulmate. i've had a few relationships since then and have felt The Yearn.
after being dumped this weekend i have some thoughts to ask myself when looking at dating / The Yearn.
1 -- are you seeking connection or attention?
2 -- is your relationship an excuse for you to not work on other parts of yourself you know you need to take time to face?
3 -- how are your friendships? do you have people behind you that will see you through any season? keep those people around FOREVER. maybe marry them instead.... lmao ๐ณ
4 -- have you dated yourself? was it full of joy and love?
5 -- can you (within reason - we can NOT exist and heal with out each other) meet your own needs and care for yourself?
6 -- how honest are you with yourself? you'll only ever be able to be that honest with other people, no matter the relationship.
7 -- are you just trying to follow a story arc that you *think* you *should* follow? see link: relationship escalator
my goals right now are to build up a family of people that will be with me forever! it's not a ton of people but it's enough! if i find a "soulmate" or "love of my life" along the way then like... nice ๐๐ but like that's not my GOAL. if you are young and reading this, i wish i knew in my 20s (am 31) what i am writing in this post. i g2g tho ~ ily, be well!
