for me it’s about trusting myself, and that trust came from spending a lot of time alone. solitude gave me space to really get to know myself, how i think, how i react, what i can handle. and once you know yourself like that, yeah, even the worst case stuff feels less scary. it’s not that things stop being hard, but you stop doubting whether you’ll get through them.
May 27, 2025
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You have to force yourself to tackle the hard thing, whatever that means to you. Because the more difficult thing, it’s probably the right thing, or the thing your life needs. I think for me, the hard thing was to submerge myself into genuine solitude. And I’m not talking about like, My Year of Rest and Relaxation or Leaving Las Vegas type solitude… And I am definitely not talking about anything related to the type of seclusion that came with quarantine. The objective here isn’t to isolate yourself to the point of total deterioration or to reject the people who love you. It’s about stomaching the feelings of loneliness that come with deep personal reflection. It’s about enduring the self-imposed boredom that comes with getting to know yourself without any external influence. It’s not about being physically alone (though it is a part of it), it’s just about finding ways to be alone with yourself and who you are, the good and the bad, and really admitting to the bad. And then, what was at first so uncomfortable and sort of embarrassing to undertake will eventually become easy-normal. Everything outside of your solitude becomes so peripheral it’s hard to remember when you existed right in the center of it all. And some people, the ones who really do buy into their socio-infallibility, will probably, yeah, consider you some misanthropic outcast! But, what my friend and I like to joke about as being misanthropy is actually just self-awareness and conviction, and belief in the improvability of everything that is or can be wrong with oneself or others... The world feels constantly disappointing, and people are disappointing, and you’re disappointing, and I am definitely disappointing… But all of that can be improved upon and then improved even more, and more and more… But you can’t improve anything about yourself until you know what it is that needs improving. And even then, knowing is only the first step, knowing doesn’t mean anything if you don’t do something about it. So if any of this applies to you, maybe think about it, do something about it. Leave, find solitude, change what needs to be changed, even if it’s really, really, hard to do that. And most importantly… embrace your cynicism in positive ways instead of in ways that honestly just fucking suck!
Oct 13, 2022
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i’ve grown to really value my alone time, and i was able to reach that point once i started to associate time spent alone with peace, grounding, and recovery. when you’re alone, do things that bring you peace and inner joy so that over time, you begin to look forward to being alone. whether it’s self-care, reading a book, discovering films, or playing your favorite album, etc, learn to enrich yourself during your alone time. essentially, @ the end of the day we have to be able to depend on ourselves for a lot, so using alone time to ground yourself and learn self love is of upmost importance.
Jan 13, 2025
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I don’t know who I would be without my solitude but I also think I would have fared better if I weren’t so alone all the time. it’s not that I don’t have friends or family to rely on, it’s just that I don’t know who to be other than to be alone.
Mar 16, 2025
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this is one of the few places online that actually feels good to use. I didn’t expect to enjoy it this much, but it’s thoughtful, chill, and way more human than the usual social apps.
May 3, 2025
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I really believe our names shape our lives. not just what people call you, but how the world sees you, responds to you, reflects you back to yourself.
If mine was different, I don’t think I’d be the same person at all. maybe nothing around me would be the same either.
It sounds unhinged but I don’t care. and yeah, it keeps me up at night more than it should
May 25, 2025
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Honestly, most people I know aren’t really thinking about it that deeply. Everyone’s just tired, and if AI helps get stuff off their plate quicker, they’re gonna use it.
May 2, 2025