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Know that just like you, people yearn for connection- I know everyone probably hears this too often but be you; be weird, be honest, have no filter. The people who are suited to you when youāre this version of yourself will find you.
People probably donāt think about you as much as you think, think about a random person right now for example: what was the last embarrassing thing they did that comes to your mind? Exactly. You fixate too much on yourself, the way you interact, the way you are perceived that it ruins your āunfilterednessā. Turn off your brain, compliment the first person you see that you think looks good, ask if you can be friends. do whatever.
The world is truly your oyster.
People probably donāt think about you as much as you think, think about a random person right now for example: what was the last embarrassing thing they did that comes to your mind? Exactly. You fixate too much on yourself, the way you interact, the way you are perceived that it ruins your āunfilterednessā. Turn off your brain, compliment the first person you see that you think looks good, ask if you can be friends. do whatever.
The world is truly your oyster.
May 26, 2025
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š„“do it for the bit!
worst case scenario? they donāt like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh).
best case scenario? youāre with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence.
rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all!
weirdos n freaks rise up!
worst case scenario? they donāt like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh).
best case scenario? youāre with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence.
rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all!
weirdos n freaks rise up!
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ā¤ļøFirstly, Iām so sorry youāre feeling that wayā thatās really crummy, and Iām sure that once you feel that way everything feels like confirmation of being unspecial. But in a very very real way, you might be bored with yourself because you know yourself so wellā other people donāt know you. You could walk into a bar or a cafe or an event and you would be new to at least one person there. If you feel like you arenāt interesting conversationally, are you a good listener? In a very honest way, the people Iāve found hottest and most intriguing are always good listeners, and people who are quiet and incisive. Itās okay if you donāt talk on and on; a lot of āinterestingā people are just filling space with noise. Noise is always briefly exciting or interesting, but that doesnāt mean it has substance or adds value. Trust me on this, Iām a performer and frankly so many nights Iām just making noise.
So first piece of advice is, approach yourself as if you were a strangerā look at everything about you like youāve never ever seen it before, and start to notice what you like. Then build on those things. Like, itās okay if you hate your clothes, but do you have one jacket/shirt/earring that you love? Wear that so much, and slowly look out for pieces that make you feel like the thing you loveā itās okay if it takes time, the outfits that make me feel dynamic are all cobbled together from stuff I found over years.
Then look at other people, what do you find interesting about them? I am a knockoff of every woman I ever thought was coolā my summer camp counselor, my gender studies TA from my first year of college, my mom, and literally everyone else. Thatās okay though, mimicking what you like is a way of developing your taste, and you will put yourself together in a way thatās a little different and totally your own.
Itās okay if it takes timeā sometimes we have seasons where we donāt like ourselves a ton, but they do pass, and who you will be in a year is a brand new personā you havenāt met them yet, and you might love them. Tiny practical advice? Go for walks; itās good for your body, it releases endorphins, and it gives you a chance to people watch/observe nature. Read something small; it can be a single poem, or an essay, or a childrenās bookā I love Howlās Moving Castle and if Iām feeling stuck in a rut I read that, even though itās a childrenās book. If reading isnāt your thing watch a movie or a TV episode, but whatever you consume, watch it and take notes, like youāre a secret criticā note what you liked, whether itās costumes or language or the vibe, and what you didnāt, and then you can find more things like itā thatās how you develop your own taste, and itās a good way to develop language around art and media.
All critics and essayists and everyone whose job is to write interestingly about art started with shit they liked in middle school, and built on that to find their own languageā you can do that too.
Sorry for the hugely long post, but I promise that you are more interesting than you give yourself credit for, and there are people in the world who will see that.
Feb 19, 2024
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š½Iāve spent most of my life feeling essentially subhuman for being strange and eccentric, yet unremarkable. Juryās still out on whether or not thatās true but I donāt have to let it ruin my life and Iām not going to stop trying to be part of the world! More people feel this way than you may think.
Thereās a premium placed on being able to captivate people and demand attention because we live in an attention economy but this ability has no bearing on your worth. people will remember you for how you made them feel, which is a valuable skill that can always be developed with practice and care š«¶
Thereās a premium placed on being able to captivate people and demand attention because we live in an attention economy but this ability has no bearing on your worth. people will remember you for how you made them feel, which is a valuable skill that can always be developed with practice and care š«¶
Jul 16, 2025
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For summer, I love to dwell in the grotesque. I love books that are so horrible and disgusting that I simply just cannot look away.
One of my top recommendations for this genre is āa certain hungerā by Chelsea Summers.
This book follows a young woman, who is a food critic that absolutely loves her job. She has a taste for the finer dinning, is extremely analytical and smart. But aside from food Dorothy has a taste for something else; love, specifically a string of lovers.
I find this book repulsive, and interesting because it intertwines themes of love and cannibalism and it explains how all consuming love can be sometimes.
One of my top recommendations for this genre is āa certain hungerā by Chelsea Summers.
This book follows a young woman, who is a food critic that absolutely loves her job. She has a taste for the finer dinning, is extremely analytical and smart. But aside from food Dorothy has a taste for something else; love, specifically a string of lovers.
I find this book repulsive, and interesting because it intertwines themes of love and cannibalism and it explains how all consuming love can be sometimes.
May 26, 2025
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today i held open the door for an elderly couple and the husband said āthank you so much miss!ā with so much shock & appreciation in his voice & on his face, i immediately responded āof course!ā
no one should be that surprised to receive a no brainer act of kindnessā¦
get kinder today, right nowānot later ! ! !
no one should be that surprised to receive a no brainer act of kindnessā¦
get kinder today, right nowānot later ! ! !
