i feel like there’s such an all or nothing culture around friendship these days — what it really comes down to is: do you feel comfortable continuing to have this person in your life? is it always going to be nagging at the back of your mind that they might not respect u/ur relationship? you don’t have to make a decision right now! but going forward it’s something to keep in mind — if I were you I might not trust this person with vulnerable information, I would be less emotionally invested in them, and I would be extra skeptical of their words/actions. but maybe they’re still fun to hang out with sometimes; I don’t think that’s a crime. although I would def keep them away from boyfriend. does it mean you never have to speak to them again? no — unless you find yourself worrying about it and resenting them! in that case you’re totally justified to move on with your life without them in it. ultimately I think boyfriend should say to (sober) friend hey that was super uncool and don’t do that again. it shouldn’t be your responsibility to deal with this. idk tho that’s just my onion 💯