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I would consider myself pretty well acquainted with adulthood but i dont think I will ever get used to how normalized it is to just be fake.
I know women who will preach high and mighty about feminism but would give all of their power and autonomy to a man if it meant simply not having to work. I know men who will label themselves as communists simply because capitalism didn‘t give them what they feel socially and financially entitled to, without bothering to examine that entitlement in the first place.
Like,,, do people just not,,,, think,,, meaningfully about themselves?? Am I just insane??? Am I a sucker for thinking a little honesty will get me anywhere in life?? Should I just be abandoning my narrative for money like everyone else seemingly is?? or do I just need to get out of [redacted US state]?
Apr 14, 2025
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I was always very strange and off putting with a strong sense of personal style but as I got older I felt this overwhelming desire to conform, that if I could be part of this class of strivers and networkers it would validate my inherent worth.
I didn’t realize that my values are so different from theirs and I think that was complicated by the fact that people benefit socially from co-opting progressive views to appear to be less vapid and materialistic than they are.
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