I felt the same for a while (never been in a relationship, situationship, etc), and suddenly one day I met a girl and we fell in love. I'm not with her anymore BUT if you're just a good person and meet people, one day someone will be interested in you romantically I promise.
Apr 10, 2025
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now i am a very lucky person because i am in love with some who was once one of my best friends. (sadly this rec probably isn’t universally applicable but contains good lessons i hope!) i’d met him during the first week of freshman year of college, and we immediately became close. hung out a ton and related on a lot of issues/values but our interactions were always platonic.
by wintertime we were being seen together around campus a ton, to the point that our acquaintances started asking whether we were a couple. we’d laugh at the idea, even joking about it ourselves. oh how oblivious we were.
spring rolled around and i suddenly caught feelings. for a couple weeks i tried to convince myself i didn’t like him because i was so afraid of losing our beautiful friendship. i thought it impossible that he would feel the same as me. yes, pretty torturous!! alas, my Emotional Suppression didn’t work. thank god, because one night when we were hanging out in my room he finally kissed me. i had been so afraid but instantly i knew it was right. the risk was worth it.
we’ve now been together for almost two years and he is truly the love of my life. he is the best risk I’ve ever taken. yes this is so platitudinous, but sometimes love comes when you least expect it and appears in odd places!
more generally, i think
- looking for people whose values align with yours is a wonderful place to start establishing intimate and long-lasting relationships, both platonic and romantic.
- it’s never worthwhile to force something to work out if your gut tells you it’s wrong — you’re worth more than that. love doesn’t thrive when it’s fed by obligation and pressure.
- don’t be afraid to present yourself in your full authenticity to others. if someone else has a problem with You in your Grandest Expression, they’re not worth your energy. love is meant to affirm and expand who you are, not place boundaries on it.
- go on self dates and explore what it means to have a loving relationship with yourself! you, as a singular self, are already whole and enough without having a partner. you are complete as a baseline regardless of your relationship status; a partner is meant to complement and embrace this wholeness!!
love is ridiculous and hard and beautiful; trust it when you feel it!!
Nov 10, 2024
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i honestly don't know if this is a good idea or not, but when you're feeling like there's no one in the world that could possibly love you, try thinking that everyone is secretly in love with you. and the truth is, there is likely someone in your life that has/had/or will have feelings for you but might not ever tell you. think about the people in your life that you've had feelings for, but you hadn't told.
and if you are like me, someone looking for love, feeling loved makes you all the more confident in finding that love, but don't listen to someone like me, i've never been in love
xoxo
Mar 11, 2025
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unless someone has
does something truly atrocious to you, i truly feel like if you had the capacity to love someone so deeply that they could be your lover, there should be a strong enough foundation of friendship to fall back on and become friends again. it obviously takes time and effort and doesn’t work every time, but it is so fulfilling to simply allow your love for someome to transform back to friendship. it hasn’t failed me
Mar 11, 2024
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Look up the lyrics in English if you like but I think the soothing feeling of this song (and a lot of the rest of the album) transcends language barriers.
Feb 18, 2025
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I haven't even watched any other Christopher Nolan movies but this movie is a masterpiece. One of my most memorable theater experiences too, I went dressed as him. It made me cry and I cherish that film a lot.
Apr 10, 2025