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BEING FRIENDLY AND INVITING TOWARDS PEOPLE YOUR OWN AGE
At my job I talk to so many different people. I have noticed though, that interacting with people my own age feels really weird (I’m 24 for reference). I honestly can’t tell if it’s me or them. All I know is that speaking with adults 30+ is mostly delightful if not neutral (Both perfectly acceptable). But when I talk to people my own age there is some very strange energy. I don’t know why. Its perplexing me. I try to treat everyone who walks in the door the same. But it’s weird regardless. They barely look at me!!! And it’s making me feel extremely odd.
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@valoorie
Apr 10, 2025
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@okwetuu_fish
covid hit us right when we were supposed to be reaching our peak social period post adolescence -> start of adulthood and we werent able to act on it so we're all awkward af with delayed social development trying to supplement it through sns which isnt the same as in-person connection? i like dont know how to be an adult in the US cause the start of my adulthood i lived overseas but covid came right when i returned so im getting culture shocks/whiplash constantly even still
Apr 10, 2025
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@urbfbear
i’m also 24 and it feels really weird interacting with ppl our age. i think maybe bc ppl are at so many different parts in life at our age that it’s hard to tell if they will be judgemental about where i am in life or not. but also im paranoid and socially anxious, so it’s probably all in my head. anyways 24 yr olds rise up and let’s all be friends despite it all
Apr 10, 2025
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LOVE SAYING HI TO OLDER PEOPLE ON THE STREET.
People my age are so rude they just look away and pretend you’re not there, so i say hey only and exclusivly to elderly going on walks, they are always so sweet.
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@byel
May 22, 2025
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being friendly
Even if it's not received well. I spent most of my life feeling awkward around other people (and still sometimes do) but I love chatting it up with a stranger. Giving a compliment, cracking a joke. An internet acquaintance is in Boston? Let's go get a drink! Making friends this way proves something to a younger, more shy version of myself. Smiled and said hello to Bimh who works at the post office earlier because last week we had a nice conversation.
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@sunnyd123
Feb 27, 2024
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Work your way up to it!
start small with saying hi to neighbors or people you make direct eye contact with out and about. Then make small talk with a barista or server or bartender. they don’t have to me the most gripping conversations, just super easy and light banter. Compliment strangers and try and see if you can turn it into a longer conversation if the vibe it right. view most of your interactions with people as practice in socializing. just play and have fun with it! sooner or later it will just feel like second nature and you can turn it on and off as your please. socializing is like a muscle, you simply have to train and exercise it to be comfortable using it. I hope this helps! PS: something that I started telling myself that kick started me being more social is that everyone in this world is a little awkward and anxious, so if we are all dealing with similar anxieties and anxiousness, it just levels the playing field. Also, when it comes to talking to strangers I find that most people are just wanting someone to break the ice first. Very few times have I talked to strangers and was met with rudeness or people being mad that I’m talking to them. In the rare instances that I do, I don’t take it personally and just tell myself they are having an off day. I’m most cases, when it comes to talking to strangers, I find that people are more shocked and pleasantly surprised that a stranger is talking to them. I just try not to talk peoples ear off and will only extend the interaction if I see that they are engaging and reciprocating back with me (ie. asking questions and responding to what im saying with genuine interest and not simple politeness). I know it all seems like a lot to think about but it gets easier with time and you figure it all out as you go. You just have to start 😊
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