Rec | JUST BE YOURSELF

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I have younger cousins (~15-30 years younger) I’ve always gotten along with, and I think it’s because I’m just myself with them. I try to ask them questions that aren’t school-related, that might be a tip. School questions seem perfunctory and you won’t come across as interested in them. I’m sincerely interested in them and that must come across. Basically, don’t try to be cool. You’re in the same generation but right now the 7 years between you is huge! Being older is a good thing because she could be curious about real life. And if she isn’t interested, let her be and sit next to her while you both look at your phones!

@bee1000

Apr 9, 2025

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@okwetuu_fish

sadly i live across the state now but yeah our bonding time used to be her in my apartment going thru all my stuff/ journals/photos while i worked on my laptop lmao im a writer but im not actually a chatty person irl never ask about school ☝️school sucks and i got into way too many fights and all her teachers know me smh

Apr 9, 2025

@bee1000

@OKWETUU_FISH You could text her photos of new stuff that’s like the stuff she used to look through with you! People here love a “thought of you” text for sure

Apr 9, 2025

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im 16 and my sister is 29 so we obv have a huge age gap but we r unapologetically ourselves around each other w/ no judgement it might not be totally comparable bc me and her r family but being authentic can lwk make things funnier anyway. like when she says something dated/ ”un-genz” i make fun of her (JOKINGLY) but at the same time i learn A LOT from her perspective and same goes for her when i talk about stuff she’s not familiar with in the end being cool doesnt really matter tbh like im sure this girl dgaf regardless and would be more weirded out if u tried to force something to seem “cool” if u r REALLY struggling to find things to talk about ask her about her for some hot gos cause telling my sister about what crazy shit happened at school that day is like my favorite thing ever

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Follow genuine CURIOSITY

this might not all apply to you, but sometimes if I overthink social interactions in general, I end up missing out on what could have been a really good conversation. I usually like to ask myself what I’m genuinely curious about/want to know about a specific person and let my questions lead into a more fruitful discussion. worst case scenario is that don’t take the bait and then the conversation ends, but most of the time I find people like talking about themselves, which can lead to something y’all have in common. I also don’t put pressure on myself to “make a friend” after one interaction. some people require crumbs of interactions before they start to let you in!

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talk about what other people want to talk about

Best way to discover the early sparks of friendships, in my experience, is to be genuinely curious about those you happen across. Ask them questions. Find out and ask about their "true self" list of conversation topics. As you probe and listen and make space for them to talk with a long runway, they'll likely do the same. If not, no worries, there's always someone else.

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