To start, try to copy a style you really like. It’s gonna feel like a costume or like you are “pretending” for a little while, but as you wear it and fine tune it day to day, you will find yourself more comfortable in it. Or you won’t! Which means you just switch paths and try something new! It is about experimenting to find something that fits, and discomfort isn’t something to be scared of because it just means you are discovering what fits and what doesn’t!
Some people I look to for example are:
Jazzelle (uglyworldwide on Instagram)
Tory Zink (Torymua on Instagram)
Macy Higgins (macyeatspaint on Instagram)
Tank Girl (fictional character)
Nana (both nanas, fictional also)
A lot of old goth/ alt characters from the early 2000s
I also look to the people around me in my peer groups. I sell at art markets and go to a lot of queer events, so I’ve got so many things to pick and choose from!