Iโm not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itโs pretty extreme when people say they โhate kidsโ and I often feel itโs a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids โshould be.โ That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itโs fucking hard to be a kid. Youโre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itโs confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyโre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatโs the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
