I bought this tank top when I was 17 and wore it, much to the dismay of my hyper religious community. As a male, my clothing wasnt policed to the level it was for women and girls in the church, but wearing that tank top brought me a bit of ire from leaders and “friends”. It was an important decision in a long line of decisions that would lead to my leaving that church. These days its a bit beat and tired and a little too small but it’s really the only shirt that has any sentimentality to me.
Mar 27, 2025
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For me it’s this sick ass James dean tank top:( I Can’t find another tank that’s a size medium and in good condition as this one is.😔
Mar 30, 2025
It said, "You're still here?!"
I loved that deep green t-shirt so much. Still feel bummed I donated it.
I was trying to be mature and dress my age. And I felt worried about hurting other people's feelings with it. (Ugh!!) The hell does it matter if I wear it in my own home.
I can't find it online or any images of it.
Mar 4, 2025
I don't know if other people did this, but during the 2020 quarantine (and in the subsequent years when we didn't see many people) I stopped wearing my "cool" t-shirts. The ones with art prints on them, my favorite band tees, etc. Subconsciously, I figured, "If nobody is going to be able to see or appreciate them, why wear them out? I might as well wait until we start socializing again."
So instead of those, I mainly wore a bunch of plain white t-shirts. One in particular fell apart more quickly than the rest. The neck started stretching out and fraying and a couple of pinholes opened up on the front. Food stains accumulated from countless meals we cooked over the past few years... It slowly became a beautiful dissolving tapestry.
Now I find myself gravitating toward that particular ratty shirt because it has become a symbol of perseverance through an unfathomable time. Since I started wearing it, a pandemic happened, I became a dad, loved ones were lost, new friends were made, a boat got stuck in the Suez Canal, I made a significant body of artwork, we watched the Sopranos for the first time, jobs changed, we watched Community for the 4th time, and I witnessed the best and the worst of humanity at extremes that I had never witnessed in my life prior. Anyway, I think it's made by Hanes.
Sad Update: The shirt may have ended up in the throwaway pile during a recent drawer clean out. A lesson in the consequences of becoming attached to worldly possessions, the impermanence of everything, entropy, et al. Pictured instead are two other surviving shirts from the same multi-pack. They have both lived equally storied lives, so they deserve to be held in the same regard and shall also be worn until ragged!
Apr 9, 2024
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Feb 18, 2025
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This one isnt that long but it took me months because some of the grief and experiences he writes about are so raw and his writing would leave me so breathless I would have to keep taking breaks and have to set the book down for a few days. Never read anything so heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time.
Jul 1, 2024
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Had a former English teacher recommend me this (we still get coffee hehe) and I’m not too far into it but it’s already made me think about race and conversations about race differently.
I’m biracial and in the introduction, Diangelo actually talks about the “middle” and this idea of “saliency” in regards to multiracial people, and I *never* hear people talk about the multiracial experience, even if the author admits it’s too complex of a topic to cover in her book which primarily tackles the idea of white fragility. But I very much appreciated her saying that and I’m learning a lot from the book.
Jul 3, 2024