Not in an escapist way, donāt avoid how you feel, but throw yourself into your hobbies, go on a trip with a friend, read lots, learn to play that instrument you havenāt touched in years again, go to your local botanic gardens and learn something new, do things that bring you joy and donāt let yourself wallow.
After my last bad breakup I thankfully had a Europe trip planned and one of the best things I did was allow myself in the quiet moments to be upset (e.g. crying listening to the album I associate with that breakup on a ferry between two Greek islands with my hair flying in the wind), but putting myself wholeheartedly into every experience and moment I could.
Mar 25, 2025
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - iāve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being āoverā the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isnāt true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right afterāitās like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same pageāso space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that youāre not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understoodāheartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ā¤ļøāš©¹
source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love
May 22, 2024
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Start a long binge worthy show, watch that and distract yourself.
I do believe in the fact that you gotta go through it somehow but distracting yourself is not running away from your problems if you are at a safe space like your own home where you can weep and cry freely.
Definitely talk to some casual friends that you very rarely see about the breakup. I know that might seem odd but talking to people I rarely see rather than my best friends that I see very often helped me keep their name out of my mouth and that helped keep them out of my mind.
Go to new places, discover. Adventure out alone and cry at different places, you are going to be sad no matter what, why not change the scenery.
I chose to distract myself most of the time in order to avoid getting depressed so I laid off the sad music and listened to podcasts for a while. I recommend Emergency Intercom!!
And if you want, pick up tennis or some other physical activity that you can channel your anger and feelings through.
Aug 21, 2024
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i think what helps/is ābestā depends on the breakup and the timeline.
if itās like, three months and your main approach is still distraction that may make it harder in the long run. but in the first few weeks i think itās okay to just distract yourself! i also think what is helpful is a mix of distractions. so maybe at the worst moments watch a sitcom, but at other times it may be helpful to read or watch media about heartbreak.
itās nice to feel seen / see how others get thru it, even fictionally. i love to watch fleabag. 10 love poems and a song of despair and crush are two beautiful poetry collections.
a small āgirlsā/friends night at home can be nice because it will be both fun and youāll get an opportunity to talk things through with friends. + therapy is always another talking option, both in the cases of if the relationship wasnāt the best or if youāre just having a really hard time (which is valid!)
one of my heartbreaks was sorta a similar situation to yours (she got with the person she told me not to worry about right after!) so i want to say 1) i know the feeling sucks and iām so sorry! and 2) itās totally possible to get through this moment, and you will ā¤ļøāš©¹
i also wrote some advice on working thru heartbreak a while back! š©¹ space, music, journaling, hobbies https://www.pi.fyi/rec/clwha3jpj02x510qsyswdwxjg
Aug 8, 2024
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