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i'm in community college rn, i had a rough time in high school so i figured id do two catchup/gen ed years before finishing up my degree at a 4 year. we all know its college app season/college result season and oh my god guys i keep seeing these high schoolers shooting for 8% acceptance rate universities and not settling for anything less. like i get it, i do. but am i the only one whos seeing an uptick of kids just applying places just to say they got in ? i feel like i ask a lot of these people about what they want to do/what they're passionate about and why they're majoring in what they're majoring in and they just give me a blank stare. can we PLEASE normalize saving money and taking your time ? you have the rest of your life to work and be miserable paying taxes and pulling your weight at a 9-5. there's literally no shame in community, and I'm so sick and tired of people thinking there is. if you don't know what you want to do, you're allowed to take the time to get there. it's honestly worse to settle on a mediocre major that you don't particularly like just to get your degree faster and say you graduated on time. high school really doesn't give you the time to decide these things so once you reach adulthood it's your responsibility to allocate your time towards it. i really want to see more kids soul searching in a meaningful and responsible way. and if you know what you wanna do and you got into your 8% acceptance rate dream school, more power to you. I'm just saying that seeing a case like that is rare these days and people deserve the time to think and absorb their new responsibilities.
Mar 19, 2025
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Yea as a community college student about to take a gap year and just work to figure out if i wang to invest in a degree… sometimes i feel like my collegiate/greek life peers are not living in the real world. I have a friend going 300k into debt to be a librarian. yea youre gonna have a lot of fun for 4 years and then youre gonna be fucked for the rest of your life. Idk
bigggggg agree!! i went to community college & it was one of the best, most formative years of my life! so many opportunities and small community and mature opinions and diverse age group. could not recommend more 🙂↕️
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🎓College is about the experiences and connections you seek out and the knowledge you gain. You can find ways to specialize and differentiate yourself from others, but you have to be an active participant in life instead of waiting for things to happen to you. There’s a wealth of opportunities available to you, so I would recommend trying everything that you can so you can start to get a feel for what you like to do and what matters to you. Then you can start finding your purpose.
As with the concept of gifted kid burnout, the reality is that everyone has their own individual strengths and aptitudes, but nobody is inherently more special than anyone else. The important thing is getting your foot in the door and showing up!
You may also want to seek out counseling services with your university if you feel you may be experiencing symptoms of depression or even just to have someone to talk to and help you along. Big life transitions like this can be incredibly destabilizing, so it’s understandable if you’re feeling lost and disillusioned!
Sorry for the Republican dad rant. go get ‘em champ 👨 👍
As with the concept of gifted kid burnout, the reality is that everyone has their own individual strengths and aptitudes, but nobody is inherently more special than anyone else. The important thing is getting your foot in the door and showing up!
You may also want to seek out counseling services with your university if you feel you may be experiencing symptoms of depression or even just to have someone to talk to and help you along. Big life transitions like this can be incredibly destabilizing, so it’s understandable if you’re feeling lost and disillusioned!
Sorry for the Republican dad rant. go get ‘em champ 👨 👍
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🌟Even if you study the statistically highest earning major, that doesn’t guarantee you a job. Unless you’re going for something ultra specific, most jobs just want to see that you have the guts to finish a degree, it doesn’t matter so much what it is. If you have a passion, follow it! It’ll make your time in school that much more enjoyable.
I started college majoring in materials sciences and engineering at a big ten school bc math was my best subject but I was miserableeeee. I thought I had to do the hardest degree possible to be successful in life and I come from a long line of engineers. Now, I feel like I’m following some sort of calling studying apparel at a tech school. Even though it’s not as promising statistically. We’re all gonna die someday anyway.
Also!!! I majorly recommend taking a gap year. That year of real life outside of an academic setting can really sheepdog your priorities.
I started college majoring in materials sciences and engineering at a big ten school bc math was my best subject but I was miserableeeee. I thought I had to do the hardest degree possible to be successful in life and I come from a long line of engineers. Now, I feel like I’m following some sort of calling studying apparel at a tech school. Even though it’s not as promising statistically. We’re all gonna die someday anyway.
Also!!! I majorly recommend taking a gap year. That year of real life outside of an academic setting can really sheepdog your priorities.
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🚫— ok sidebar the fact that our society SUX —
btw: this is entire rec is based on the assumption that you’re graduating from college and you’re in your early 20s.
since we currently exist in that reality, as someone who STILL has $25K in student loan debt is 31 yrs old (and i got other debt 🙄)
you do NOT need to go further into debt to make a difference in this world. some careers you could argue differently (law degree, professor, etc etc). sometimes i procrastinate what i REALLY should be doing with another project to delay starting the other thing. this sometimes is what i think people do with grad school, you kinda wanna avoid starting the real life shit so (some) people go to grad school. or like sometimes i think about social workers and psychologists (they’re either great or they’re not good ppl) like you wanna save the world or you feel bad about racism and the horrible systems that exist in our world, so you read about it and write essays to make yourself feel better — but then those people don’t/can‘t actually work with the populations they studied????? IDKKKKK more to be said, i barely scratched the surface.
my best advice to you is find a job that pays the bills (again sweet jesus baby christ we live in a society 😩 god bless you on this endeavor) and gives you some time to pursue your passions.
answer the following questions 1. what do you want your life to look like? how can you make it look like that in small actions over time? 2. what keeps your fire burning? can you make a living from this that won’t kill your soul? 3. what are your SKILLS? panicked because you feel like you don’t have any??? YA again our society SUCKS. you do have skills, but think about this!!! write those skills down!! OR go learn them!!!!! you can learn most things fore free 99 ;)
lastly: please please please please become financially literate, learn how to budget, live below your means. this more than ANYTHING will help you live a life you WANT to live!!!!! it also cleanses your soul of convenience culture and impulsive spending (there’s definitely a book about this but this short little sentence will have to do) which clears the fucking horrible juju extractive capitalism that sticks to us like glue if we don’t actively try and fight it. we don’t actually need anything, we just need food, water, shelter, and human connection. fuck starbucks, fuck amazon, fuck all that shit! $pend wi$ely and you will live even wi$er :)
btw: this is entire rec is based on the assumption that you’re graduating from college and you’re in your early 20s.
since we currently exist in that reality, as someone who STILL has $25K in student loan debt is 31 yrs old (and i got other debt 🙄)
you do NOT need to go further into debt to make a difference in this world. some careers you could argue differently (law degree, professor, etc etc). sometimes i procrastinate what i REALLY should be doing with another project to delay starting the other thing. this sometimes is what i think people do with grad school, you kinda wanna avoid starting the real life shit so (some) people go to grad school. or like sometimes i think about social workers and psychologists (they’re either great or they’re not good ppl) like you wanna save the world or you feel bad about racism and the horrible systems that exist in our world, so you read about it and write essays to make yourself feel better — but then those people don’t/can‘t actually work with the populations they studied????? IDKKKKK more to be said, i barely scratched the surface.
my best advice to you is find a job that pays the bills (again sweet jesus baby christ we live in a society 😩 god bless you on this endeavor) and gives you some time to pursue your passions.
answer the following questions 1. what do you want your life to look like? how can you make it look like that in small actions over time? 2. what keeps your fire burning? can you make a living from this that won’t kill your soul? 3. what are your SKILLS? panicked because you feel like you don’t have any??? YA again our society SUCKS. you do have skills, but think about this!!! write those skills down!! OR go learn them!!!!! you can learn most things fore free 99 ;)
lastly: please please please please become financially literate, learn how to budget, live below your means. this more than ANYTHING will help you live a life you WANT to live!!!!! it also cleanses your soul of convenience culture and impulsive spending (there’s definitely a book about this but this short little sentence will have to do) which clears the fucking horrible juju extractive capitalism that sticks to us like glue if we don’t actively try and fight it. we don’t actually need anything, we just need food, water, shelter, and human connection. fuck starbucks, fuck amazon, fuck all that shit! $pend wi$ely and you will live even wi$er :)
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