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We’ve been together long enough that we are slowly beginning to dress the same. Here’s the variation that’s been in heavy rotation. I find it deeply endearing that we reach for the same clothes, periodically swapping shirts and sweaters. It’s either dorky as hell or super cool, depending on how you look at it. Also, there’s this sweet continuity in photos of us, wearing the same sweater and vest over and over. Like we are time travelers in a uniform of our own devising.
Mar 16, 2025
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I love when I see couples matching or in the same outfits or same shoes or whatever it truly displays this subconscious connection and similar taste but also a palpable physical manifestation of simple closeness and intimacy- the practicality of like "oh these shoes/jacket/vests are good let's just get two pairs." and anyway also mirroring one another is like desire/love at its most basic early stages I think 💞
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Same shoes different colors, different outfits same color scheme, matching jewelry. It’s like the Olsen twins except you get to kiss
Jan 3, 2024
It’s cute. And makes everyone wonder, was it intentional? Is one person copying the other? Do they recognize that they’re wearing the same thing? Is anyone even original anymore? Bonus points when it’s a whole group in uniform 👯
Feb 3, 2024
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and i don’t mean matching on dating apps (unless that’s what you’re looking for rn)… i mean matching clothes or shoes or accessories with people you care about! even if you’re not hanging out with the person you have a matching item with, it’s nice to know they have it too ;,) sometimes matching can be corny, but i think it can be so cute n sweet!
Sep 16, 2024
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i did some serious reflection and realized i’d become super reliant upon, and frankly, quite used to the instant gratification of purchasing something and knowing i’d have it within a day. that’s not normal. the labor practices, economics, and environmental impacts of getting what you want from the internet delivered quickly and right to your door are skewed. i was filling a void in myself with mindless purchases.
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